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    Do you ever forget...

    ...that your SO misses you just as much as you do? I guess because I feel what I feel 24/7 and I only hear about his feelings when he decides to bring it up, sometimes it's hard to remember that he's as invested in this as I am. It came up today when we were talking about the plane tickets for my next flight. I was asking if we were splitting the ticket again or if he wanted me to pay more to kind of balance things out from previous visits, and he said we should split it because "I want to see you just as much as you want to see me, so it's only fair." Oh yeah, that's right. He does.

    Anyone else, or is it just me?


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    #2
    I do once in awhile... then I give him the news that I have a job interview right in his town (not a large one) and he gets so excited and says things like "omg I could see you every day" and it reminds me and makes my heart smile
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      #3
      All the time!
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        #4
        Somtimes, because once in a while I get the crying breakdowns from missing him so much; he never does that. Mostly a male thing, he doesn't like me to see him cry- he's only let go a little bit at the airport and our first skype call after a visit. He doesn't get upset as I do, so sometimes it feels like it's only me having a hard time dealing and wanting to be together. Which is stupid, because he's always like "come hooooooooome now" when we're talking. Or "It's a nice day out, we should go for a walk". Just because he doesn't stomp his feet and bawl like I do sometimes, doesn't mean he doesn't care as much as I do.

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          #5
          Maybe sometimes? I talk about missing my SO way more often and I can get pretty sad about it which can ruin our happiness, but I do know that she misses me just as much. She just doesn't mention it as often because she doesn't want to drag me down.

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            #6
            I do sometimes, because i just miss him soooo much, i don't think he could miss me this much. But then he tells me things that make me melt and see he loves me too just as much (maybe lol, i love him alot) And one time im all i think i miss you more, and he's all okay ill just let you think that. Lol
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              #7
              All the time. It's just because I feel how much I miss him and I can't feel phsysically how he's feeling. Men aren't as in touch with their feelings as women are and are less likely to show them. It makes it really hard for me sometimes because I feel like I'm the only one struggling, and he's okay with it. I know he loves me and He'd much rather we were together than apart, and that's okay with me for now.
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                #8
                All the time too, especially at the moment. Since I've got back to Australia we barely get to talk, I didn't even hear from him for a week till sunday and my perception is that he doesn't miss me as much as I miss him. I don't get to hear it from him, for the last 5 weeks when we do talk we're lucky to get past "hi, how are you?". I'm somebody who needs to see and hear things to believe them, I worry myself silly that he doesn't really want to be with me.
                He puts on the brave face too so when I was leaving he didn't even show his emotions which has made things harder, I wanted to see that he was gunna me miss me, that me leaving was upsetting but if that's how he deals with things then I can't do anything about that.
                I just think of all the great memories we have and moments where I know he loves me.
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                  #9
                  Happens to me all the time. He's a lot quieter about his feelings than I am, but when he does express them... it feels so good, and reminds me that he really does love me as he says.

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                    #10
                    I feel like that a lot because he rarely expresses how lonely and upset he gets when we're not together and me on the other hand I probably say it everyday and a lot of times I just want to say things like "you don't understand" but I know he does and then I feel bad for even thinking that.

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                      #11
                      When our relationship first began I felt like I was the only one bothered by the times we'd go days without talking and even though I never said anything directly he tended to pick up on my attitude because he claimed whatever prose I wrote during his absence pretty much bled the words "I miss you". As his work became more demanding there was no questioning it because when we would talk, first thing out his mouth would be "I'm sorry, I wish I had more time." After our visit we dropped the formalities and just plainly say we miss each other. Some days I think he's worse off than me because he's stuck in a job he hates, in an apartment with troublesome roommates, and has the schedule of "work, eat, sleep" every day. I have the luxury of distracting myself, he doesn't.

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                        #12
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                          #13
                          I guess it's a male thing, and it reassures me in a way to see that it doesn't happen just to me. Boys deal differently with their emotions i guess, and i'm a really emotional person. I just do anything to text him, call him, i often stay home instead of going out just so i can say "i love you" to him on skype in between his classes. but then he does things like staying up till 5 am on skype because i'm sick at home and he wants to be there for me, and it reminds me that he has so much love to give me.

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                            #14
                            No, only because before we put the "no I miss yous" clause in the relationship, The Boy would say it all the time and I would hear the pain and longing in his voice. I know he misses me. He knows I miss him. But when we would say it, it would hurt terribly. This relationship is not about hurt. So we try to keep that to a minimum.

                            That doesn't mean it still doesn't come out occasionally; it does. It's just not an everyday occurrence, making us sad.


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                              #15
                              Sure, I know he does. He's not the kind of guy who shows his emotions, so he tries to not talk about it much, but every now and again, I can hear such longing in his voice. Only 4 more days til I see him
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