I need your opinion and comfort :(

[iamangel]

My boyfriend sends me a message today after four days that he didn't message me... I will tell to you our story... I met him online and we're 6 months now in a LD relationship ( we still didn't meet in person). We're both 21 y/o and both in a first relationship or first love. I met his Mom and siblings via skype and he met my Mom and my sisters too. His family accepts me and they are so happy in our relationship. Even though we're apart I feel our love to each other. We still didn't meet on person because he is still studying and staying on his parents and me I’m a fresh graduate and plan to work abroad while we’re still not together. We have plans and we talked this almost every day before. Our plan is after his study he will work to earn enough for our common living in the future. If he earns enough money and everything is fine on us we will close the distance. But we both don't know when we will meet or close the distance. We overcome some problems like on religion matters and the communication problem we had (my laptop broke so we rarely talked and the other we talked once a week last month because of his on the-job-training, studies and time differences ). But now I don't know if we will survive another one because he's losing hope now and he can't stand this LDR... When I fall in love with him I promised to myself that I will give my best for this relationship to work and not to regret anything no matter what happen. I feel and I know he loves me and I feel the same way and I can wait for him and I can stand our relationship but it’s not only me. We're partner so if he doesn’t want this relationship I can't do anything but to accept this even it's the hardest part.
Here's his message to me today:

“I have to tell You something.. I didn't talk with You last days because I've got a big problem with my feelings.. I mean I can't stand that we are still apart and I feel that I need more, that our contact isn't enough for me, I know that You can feel the same but I just don't know how to stand it. It's not Your fault of course but we don't have any influence on this situation, we just can wait and I really don't know how long we will wait.. I don't know how to explain it for You to be able to understand me right but I think that in our situation the best way will be to not engage too much in our relation, to not be disappointed later. We need to take a fresh breath and take a new look on everything. I hope that You understand me.. Just send me some message with Your point of view, it's very important for me to know Your opinion.
So I think we shouldn't talk this week, OK? Next week we will talk about this but for now just send me a message and tell me what do You think about it, OK? But promise me that You won't worry about it. We just have to explain everything because I think that we need some explanation
Have a great week :-* "

I understand his point but it's not enough that our love for each other will stand for all of this hardships??? I still didn't message him back and we will talk next week on Skype like what he said... Now, I keep thinking this and it's hurting me... He’s the first man I fall in love with and want to be the last. I don’t want to lose him.

[Semperfikindoflove]

Alright, first things first. Breathe and relax. The fact that he wants to talk about it is a good thing. I know that it's hard to read that and accept that but this can be a good thing. The fact that he didn't walk away means he wants to know what you think and he truly cares. I know this is going to be hard for you but you seem like a strong girl, I think you will be just fine. Love sometimes isn't enough and sometimes it is. I know you don't want to lose him, so take it day by day. Here are some things I would bring up to him if you get the chance or whenever you talk next:

1. Is there anyway you two could see each other sooner?
-Talk about the possibility of the two of you seeing each other soon or making your long distance relationship a close distance relationship sooner. Maybe see if you can work abroad wherever he is, that could shorten the distance quickly.
2. Do you both see this relationship as long term and into the future?
- This is something you two absolutely need to discuss right now because if it isn't something you both want in the future then don't put yourself through the stress of trying to make it work. If you both want it to work, then there is no reason for it not to. Sure, the distance will be hard but I bet you two can do it.

Come up with things you want to know from him, maybe plan a trip to see him or try to close the distance a little bit. Both of you have to work together here. Give him some time and remind him often that you love him. Be patient and accept that he's struggling with this. I know you are hurting but chances are that he is hurting just as much as you. If you two love each other no amount of time or distance will be able to bring you two down. Keep your head up girl, you're strong and an awesome person. If you need anything please feel free to message me!

[Rosebud]

I agree that it's a really good sign that your guy sent you this message because he's not just throwing in the towel and admitting defeat. And I also agree that the best thing you can do right now is sit back and try to relax, though I know that's harder than it sounds. About a month in my boyfriend and I got into a tough spot where everything felt up in the air, we didn't really know where our relationship would take us and if we could last. And we actually did this same exact thing. A short break. We didn't break UP, just sort of let our feelings cool down from the high intensity of puppy love and maybe that's what your guy wants to do. From his email he obviously cares for you and you sound the same for him and maybe this little breather is the best thing for you. I know it's easy to want to get wrapped up in the future and the what-ifs, but maybe for now you guys need to let your relationship cool down. This doesn't mean you have to break up, just maybe for a few weeks be a bit more independent in your own lives and it might help you see that even if you can't close the distance yet that you'll still be okay and can last until then.

I know it's tough, but I think if you guys put your mind to it you'll be able to come out on top

[kireinamida]

I sent you a PM. Don't hesitate to message me here or on YM. Keep your chin up girl!

[iamangel]

Thank you for your advice and comfort. It helps a lot. Even I’m still not fine and keep thinking. I'm waiting for next week for us to talk and make clear things. I have so many questions on my head. I don't want to expect anymore but still I’m expecting. I keep on crying, especially if I’m thinking about us. My eyes ache and my heart hurts. Even I’m sleeping I keep thinking, before I sleep and when I wake up...It's like there's a heavy bags here on my chest... Although I feel this pain I’m not regretting anything. I experienced for the first time to love and to be loved. I felt the inexpressible happiness because of this love. I’m still thankful and I love him so I need to accept whatever will happen.
Thank you very much Semperfikindoflove, Rosebud, and kireinamida ...