So maybe this is just a simple, unrelated feeling, but I feel so distant. Not just from my SO but from everyone. I don't know exactly, but over that, I've really had on and off feelings about leaving my SO.
Now, many would say, "If you're not happy, leave..." Well, that's the thing. I don't feel as if I have to be happy with my SO 100% of the time. But this is getting too hard. Not because of the distance but because of his inability to try to make the distance a little easier.
We're both young. He's 18, and I'm 16, but half the time, I feel as if I'm so much older than him because of the way he acts. I let him know that my life doesn't revolve around him. And I don't want his life to revolve around me, but it seems that it does. And lately, when he says I love you, it's getting hard to say them back.
He's a momma's boy. And while there isn't a problem with being so when you're 4, or even 13, to be 18 and have almost no independence... is just sad. Don't get me wrong, I love him. I love him so much. And I really don't want to live without him, but I have a feeling lately, that if we're really meant to be.... then we both need to grow up.
We're always talking about being married. He's always without doubts. And I'm the one with all of them. Because I know the reality of it. I don't think it's the distance that's our problem. I think it's our ages.
I wish I could just say, "I think we need to break up until we're 20 or so, and we'll be okay then." But I know things don't work like that. If we break up, we might never get back together. But I also know myself. I know that if we break up, I'll regret it. I'll come running back, apologizing, and I'll never really get the space I need to decide.
Also, he's coming this weekend for my birthday, however, I'll probably get no alone time with him.
I don't know what to think really. I just spent almost 40 dollars on his graduation present, and honestly, if I break up with, I'll feel guilty for giving it to him, because I know he'll be hurt. Every single one of my presents have something along the lines of saying "I love you." And while if we break up, it won't be untrue. I still know that if someone gave me something and then left with no warning, it would hurt more knowing that just a couple of days ago, everything was great.
I just don't know what to do.
Now, many would say, "If you're not happy, leave..." Well, that's the thing. I don't feel as if I have to be happy with my SO 100% of the time. But this is getting too hard. Not because of the distance but because of his inability to try to make the distance a little easier.
We're both young. He's 18, and I'm 16, but half the time, I feel as if I'm so much older than him because of the way he acts. I let him know that my life doesn't revolve around him. And I don't want his life to revolve around me, but it seems that it does. And lately, when he says I love you, it's getting hard to say them back.
He's a momma's boy. And while there isn't a problem with being so when you're 4, or even 13, to be 18 and have almost no independence... is just sad. Don't get me wrong, I love him. I love him so much. And I really don't want to live without him, but I have a feeling lately, that if we're really meant to be.... then we both need to grow up.
We're always talking about being married. He's always without doubts. And I'm the one with all of them. Because I know the reality of it. I don't think it's the distance that's our problem. I think it's our ages.
I wish I could just say, "I think we need to break up until we're 20 or so, and we'll be okay then." But I know things don't work like that. If we break up, we might never get back together. But I also know myself. I know that if we break up, I'll regret it. I'll come running back, apologizing, and I'll never really get the space I need to decide.
Also, he's coming this weekend for my birthday, however, I'll probably get no alone time with him.
I don't know what to think really. I just spent almost 40 dollars on his graduation present, and honestly, if I break up with, I'll feel guilty for giving it to him, because I know he'll be hurt. Every single one of my presents have something along the lines of saying "I love you." And while if we break up, it won't be untrue. I still know that if someone gave me something and then left with no warning, it would hurt more knowing that just a couple of days ago, everything was great.
I just don't know what to do.
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