Long story short, there was a major fight 3 weeks ago (I've posted WAY too many threads about it 
). And now we're barely talking. We've been in an LDR for 3 months (2 were through AF basic) and these current few weeks were spent in bitterness (his part). Our 2 year anniversary is on thursday too! We both run extremely busy schedules and I know that he's at a new base so he's spending alot of time with his friends and he's studying.
However now its just avoidance! We're a really strong couple, and we've gone through way worse things. but normally we recover from arguments by meeting up and holding each other while talking it out. Now that thts not an option, he just doesnt want to talk with me (an obvious assumption). Its really difficult on my part too since my phone was stolen this previous monday (not getting another till this fri) and with the limited chances I have to use a phone, he never answers his phone.
Gathering my knowledge of him, he's not inducing a breakup (we already said we weren't going to). It's just to me like he's taking time to sort it all out in his head without me (taking a very long time...). The anxiety is so frustrating! Im so scared about missing a phone call or message (since my phone is gone) and it's so scary to not know what is going through his head. Most of the time I actually feel pretty confident, I daydream about what we're gonna do when he gets back, fantasize about the look on his face when he sees me, and all that happy stuff. I honestly have a good feeling about it all being okay, but tht could just be because of lots of prayer
I love him to death and I know that the feelings are between me and him are genuine. Its just that he's having a difficult with the next level of commitment that prior to the LDR/military he had been wanting to take (considering engagement/me relocating withing a year)...
I just dont know what to be thinking, part of me knows that I'm just insanely paranoid and tht I'm blowing things out of proportion, but its what I do. He'll be back home in 2 weeks and I know that within a short amount of time it'll all be normal again, but I think it will be the dealbreaker as well. I'm not too sure if I should just go ahead and give him space for the next 2 weeks and just wait till he's home, or try to solve everything prior till.
Any advice or input is greatly appreciated? Positive/encouraging words even more greatly appreciated
). And now we're barely talking. We've been in an LDR for 3 months (2 were through AF basic) and these current few weeks were spent in bitterness (his part). Our 2 year anniversary is on thursday too! We both run extremely busy schedules and I know that he's at a new base so he's spending alot of time with his friends and he's studying. However now its just avoidance! We're a really strong couple, and we've gone through way worse things. but normally we recover from arguments by meeting up and holding each other while talking it out. Now that thts not an option, he just doesnt want to talk with me (an obvious assumption). Its really difficult on my part too since my phone was stolen this previous monday (not getting another till this fri) and with the limited chances I have to use a phone, he never answers his phone.
Gathering my knowledge of him, he's not inducing a breakup (we already said we weren't going to). It's just to me like he's taking time to sort it all out in his head without me (taking a very long time...). The anxiety is so frustrating! Im so scared about missing a phone call or message (since my phone is gone) and it's so scary to not know what is going through his head. Most of the time I actually feel pretty confident, I daydream about what we're gonna do when he gets back, fantasize about the look on his face when he sees me, and all that happy stuff. I honestly have a good feeling about it all being okay, but tht could just be because of lots of prayer
I love him to death and I know that the feelings are between me and him are genuine. Its just that he's having a difficult with the next level of commitment that prior to the LDR/military he had been wanting to take (considering engagement/me relocating withing a year)...
I just dont know what to be thinking, part of me knows that I'm just insanely paranoid and tht I'm blowing things out of proportion, but its what I do. He'll be back home in 2 weeks and I know that within a short amount of time it'll all be normal again, but I think it will be the dealbreaker as well. I'm not too sure if I should just go ahead and give him space for the next 2 weeks and just wait till he's home, or try to solve everything prior till.
Any advice or input is greatly appreciated? Positive/encouraging words even more greatly appreciated
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