Planning what to do...

[tiffinnie]

Athila (my SO) will be here in 69 days... He has never left his country and has never been to the US... I've never seen my city as a place where tourists gather... I don't live in a particularly exciting city like Chicago or Seattle or St. Louis... I live in Sacramento... He will be here for 29 days and I'm kinda nervous about what I should show him. I don't know where to take him or what he would want to know about or anything really. The most exciting things he will get to do here are see Old Sacramento, see fireworks for the first time (4th of July) and the CalState fair...

I tried looking up online to see what there is in Sacramento that is remotely close to interesting...

• CalState Fair
• Fairytale Town
• Sacramento Zoo
• Sutters Fort
• Crocker Art Museum
• Railroad Museum
• Automobile Museum
• Aero Museum
• Old Sacramento
• American River
• College Campus?
• Barcode (a night club)
• Hard Times Billiards
• Thundervalley/Red Hawk Casino
• Arden/Sunrise/K Street Malls
• Little League ALLSTAR games (considering he has never seen baseball...)

We could EASILY knock all of that out in a week... That leaves three more... I don't know what to dooooo.

Basically what I'm asking is for planning help... tips? suggestions? if you were to come to Sacramento, what would you want to do? How do I suggest to him that we spread that stuff out and have some days where we just don't go out and do something? Would it be lame if I took him around the two tiny towns just outside of Sacramento that I grew up in?

I'm nervous about this because A. I've never met him in person, and B. I don't know what else there is to do in this damn city because I'm NOT a social butterfly... I have 1 friend and we don't go out and do things...

[kiara_silver]

Lol i need tips too, my so is coming to california for the first time in june and on the 25th were going to be in sacramento till the 1st. according to his plans he gave me and i know he wants to site see and so were going to go to see Old Sacramento, and the rest idk, so thnx for the list you gave, and im sorry have no help lol its funny huh? living in these areas but don't really know much whats around, haha

[tiffinnie]

Lol i need tips too, my so is coming to california for the first time in june and on the 25th were going to be in sacramento till the 1st. according to his plans he gave me and i know he wants to site see and so were going to go to see Old Sacramento, and the rest idk, so thnx for the list you gave, and im sorry have no help lol its funny huh? living in these areas but don't really know much whats around, haha

SERIOUSLY!! Plus I'm thinking Fairytale Town miiiiight be too young for us and too small for him... he is 6'7" he won't fit under the bridge thing to get inside without like... crawling... Matter of fact, he won't be able to walk into a bunch of places without ducking to get in... Does anyone know of a bar with live music? or a jazz club or something? >.< I fail at this so bad!

[Moon]

Be careful not to overplan! I'm sure he wants to see your city, but what he's really doing is coming to see YOU A nice picnic in the park will probably be a lot more useful to your relationship, it doesn't matter what you do, as long as you're doing it together. You should definitely do some sightseeing, but take some time to just hang out together, relaxing. Good luck, I'm excited for you!

[acroush]

Jelly Bell factory is in fairfield... not that far away and one of my favorite places in Nor Cal. Get some belly flops for me

[Caitlin2009]

you might wanna give him a few days to recover from the jet lag first lol that might take 2-3 days at best cause that knocks you out big time, and i would say do something small at first and depending on how many days he's staying do the big stuff every other day

[tiffinnie]

Jelly Bell factory is in fairfield... not that far away and one of my favorite places in Nor Cal. Get some belly flops for me

TOTALLY forgot about it!!!

you might wanna give him a few days to recover from the jet lag first lol that might take 2-3 days at best cause that knocks you out big time, and i would say do something small at first and depending on how many days he's staying do the big stuff every other day

We have the same sleep schedule... He thinks we need to hop on a plane right away and fly to Vegas a night... O_O I told him he was absolutely out of his fucking mind!

Be careful not to overplan! I'm sure he wants to see your city, but what he's really doing is coming to see YOU A nice picnic in the park will probably be a lot more useful to your relationship, it doesn't matter what you do, as long as you're doing it together. You should definitely do some sightseeing, but take some time to just hang out together, relaxing. Good luck, I'm excited for you!

I'm trying to talk him into just relaxing and not going all psycho-tourist but he wants to go out and do something every day... I don't think there is much to do here... but a picnic would be nice I know the perfect place.

[13000km]

Be careful not to overplan! I'm sure he wants to see your city, but what he's really doing is coming to see YOU A nice picnic in the park will probably be a lot more useful to your relationship, it doesn't matter what you do, as long as you're doing it together. You should definitely do some sightseeing, but take some time to just hang out together, relaxing. Good luck, I'm excited for you!

This. While seeing these places might be loads of fun, there is no need to be doing something new every day. Do things you would usually do on a date, go for a movie, a nice meal, a stroll. Spend time with each other doing nothing and enjoy it. I'm so happy for you. (:

[13000km]

you might wanna give him a few days to recover from the jet lag first lol that might take 2-3 days at best cause that knocks you out big time, and i would say do something small at first and depending on how many days he's staying do the big stuff every other day

Jet lag is awful. It took me about 5 days to recover from it when I went there and another 5 days when I came home. When there it wasn't so bad because there was stuff to do and I just slept whenever I wasn't doing anything, but when I came home, I went right back to work and it was such a struggle. /:

[AllieBaba]

When I went to visit my boyfriend we didn't really do anything out of the ordinary. He lives in a little town in Michigan so there's not a lot to do there haha. We would go to the mall and out to eat all the time but that's about it. I never had a problem with that because as long as I was with him I didn't really care what I did. Yeah, it's nice to visit different places but sometimes it's nice to just stay at home and be lazy.

Anyways, I don't know if this will help but you could try going to the Sacramento Convention and Visitors Bureau. That's Sacramento's DMO (Destination Marketing Organization) a website where they get to advertise the city. You'll find things to do and see, places to go and eat and many other things!

[Caitlin2009]

Jet lag is awful. It took me about 5 days to recover from it when I went there and another 5 days when I came home. When there it wasn't so bad because there was stuff to do and I just slept whenever I wasn't doing anything, but when I came home, I went right back to work and it was such a struggle. /:

tell me about it, it took me 4 days to get back to normal when i flew over there, and then slightly longer when i came back to the US

[MusicalSoul22]

I would say the first day he gets there just maybe take it slow. Have some coffee, go for a walk, just enjoy each other's company. The US is going to probably feel very overwhelming to him, especially if he has never been out of his country. Get him used to the area a little and what its like out there. The list of ideas you have is good, and I would go through the list with him and see what he would be interested in. Most importantly, have fun and make memories! Just remember to leave quality time opne for the two of you to just relax and be with each other. Rent some movies, listen to some music, maybe you could cook him one of your favorite American meals and he could cook you one of his favorite meals from his country.

[tiffinnie]

Rent some movies, listen to some music, maybe you could cook him one of your favorite American meals and he could cook you one of his favorite meals from his country.

I asked him if he could cook... he said absolutely not O_O so the food thing sounded like an awesome idea until then hahaha


We talked briefly about things last night and what we want to do... basically he wants to go out of town once a week while he is here... he wants to drive to S. Lake Tahoe, Reno, Vegas, and SanFran... I'm ok with that I guess... nothing huge... the trip to Vegas is going to be ridiculous because its 8-12 hour drive... I don't do well in cars for long periods of time, I get car sick... but these are beautiful places and it gives us somewhere new to be and experience things that neither one of us have before... (except for me with reno and s lake tahoe...)

Anyways, I showed him the list and he wants to do it all!! O_____O I know we wont but I don't have a problem with trying (or at least knocking some of the less important ones off the list)

I know his birthday will be spent here and he is a nightclub person soooo the family is planning to hit the nightclub with him and drink and have fun... I'm alright with that!

[Joyce:)]

as it has been said already, don't overplan! go to the zoo and enjoy a nice day walking around and so on, but remember that your SO is coming over not for the tourist stuff, but fot YOU.
I made such a long list for when my boyfriend came over, and we ended up doing half the things, just because we would end up napping, or just not doing much but still enjoying each other's company.
so just have fun, and ask him what he would like to do, and don't worry.
enjoy his stay!