Does your SO do this?

[BJL_Sweetheart1109]

Does this happen to anyone else....

So we all know LDR's aren't easy. Not that we'd change it, but it's not easy. And I know while a CDR would be ideal, you'd much rather an LDR with your current SO than never having met him or her.

Well I always miss him, I'd always rather him be with me, but some weeks are worse than others. I'm just better able to deal with it some days than others. And it just always seems when I'm the most overwhelmed with life and missing him the most, this is when he texts and calls the least. Don't get me wrong he's fabulous, and he's usually really great about randomly texting me during the day to say he's thinking about me. Or remember stressful dates for me (big test, first day of teaching, etc) and telling me good luck.

But some times he's has an off week for whatever reason and doesn't text as much, or call as often, or talk as long. It always seems to be when I'm having the hardest week.

Does your SO seem to do this?

[William]

I think that you're having the hardest week Because he's having an off week. That would make sense...

[Rach321]

My SO is the same. Sometimes I know it's because he's busy, but sometimes when he's busy he's more attentive, and sometimes when he has nothing going on, he's less. So I can never really predict when he's going to be really close and when he's not. I think it's just because we both have very different ways of dealing with the distance. He tends to try to focus on other things and I tend to want to spend even more time talking and being affectionate.

[LuckyFin]

I agree with Rach. My SO and I have almost monthly arguements that always start and end the same exact way - yet we can't seem to avoid them. I think it's just stemming from our shared frustrations at not being able to be together. I don't think that you're SO is purposly being less attentive to you when you're having a stressful week. It may just seem that way because everything else is going haywire. I know when I'm overwhelemed with life I tend to be short and snippy with my BF!

[BJL_Sweetheart1109]

My SO is the same. Sometimes I know it's because he's busy, but sometimes when he's busy he's more attentive, and sometimes when he has nothing going on, he's less. So I can never really predict when he's going to be really close and when he's not. I think it's just because we both have very different ways of dealing with the distance. He tends to try to focus on other things and I tend to want to spend even more time talking and being affectionate.

yea it's a bad week all around. He keeps asking why I'm so upset even though I explain every night. I told I was warning him it's only going to get worse bc school will not slow down anytime soon.

HEY RACH I just saw this commercial......and posted a thread on it. https://members.lovingfromadistance....IS-haha&p=8990 go check it out. lol

[agentholli]

when my SO doesn't text or call as much or is not talking very much in the phone conversations its usually because he has something very stressful on his mind. He likes to keep those to himself and then it makes me feel like he doesn't like me anymore or like i am on the back burner. when i finally telll him that i feel that way, he explains what has been bothering him. It usually happens also when I am having a stressful week, but like William said...i have a harder week when i don't get the 'attention" from my SO

[folclor]

Aw, Alex does that sometimes. Around Christmas he had a few days off and spent all but the last one not talking to me at all. ^^; Did the same thing on New Years. >.> but then he gives me more attention at other times..

[Bluestars]

Yep This happens quite often, especially when he is stressed or really busy with work and school. During those times, he barely wants to talk at all. It makes me upset because even when I am at my busiest, I will set aside twenty or thirty minutes for him, even it means less sleep/ studying. At the same time, I will want his support but he doesn't realize that. This usually makes me cranky/paranoid/depressed, which isn't good, but in the long run I just have to remind myself that it is worth it.

[JoMarie]

Yes, my SO is also like this. It seems to me when I ask him about it he talks and spends less time with me when he misses me more? He says when he is having a day when he really misses me that it makes me sad having to text or call. Also when he had a really bad day at work he doesn't care to talk as much. IDK men are strange!

[ErinKristine]

It happens occasionally, oddly enough what happens to us the most is when it's a week (or even just a night) that I'm able to talk for a while longer he can't talk very long and vice versa. So that gets me a little bummed out when I'm looking forward to a long video chat and all he can fit in is a 10-20 minute phone call, don't get me wrong I'm happy with just a text, but there are definitely times when I want to talk more.

[AMPLVSCLJ]

I know this is off subject but where did you get your counter? I love that. I am new here and see that a lot of ppl have them. I was just wanting to get one.

[BJL_Sweetheart1109]

There's one called tickerfactory.com I think that's what I used in this signature. But then I figured out a lot of ppl got there's from Diasypath. I like that one better for the countdowns about the SO's but I was too lazy to make another one and got change it in the signature.

So
TickerFactory.com
or
DiasyPath.com

[AMPLVSCLJ]

Thanks for the help.

[Mio]

Lol, I've felt the same way too!

[LilyPanda]

This actually happens to me a lot, when Nolan is busy with school work or family. It just makes me miss him more, but I know I can't have his attention 24/7. Just hang in there!