I really need some advice because I'm just not getting it at home.
I have the opportunity to close my LDR for three months out of the summer by me moving to my SO's city. We would be together for three months before he would leave another year (well nine months) for school. The problem I am wrestling with is he currently goes to school about an hour away from my house. I see him about every two weeks on the weekends. If I moved we would be two hours separated and I'm not sure I would be able to see him as frequently. My parents are trying to keep me home and while just being caring parents I'm not sure what to think. My SO is 100% on board with my moving and is very excited but at the same time has his concerns. We have briefly discussed the ninth months apart when he returns to school. Unfortunately that means I am in a new city alone. While that isn't a bad thing because I can sight see in the city and my family isn't that far away I just worry the distance will cause us to see each-other less and this one hour distance is difficult enough.
I guess my options are continue long distance all summer (my stomach turns at the idea) while saving money and having him closer when he goes back to school or have the summer together with him and be farther apart. I know that next May when he returns home he wants to like in the city so moving there and getting a career would help our future. I have been working two jobs (eleven hour days!) to save up enough money for the rent and for expenses that go with getting a new apartment.
I'm sure a few hours isn't that bad to a lot of couples but I went from living on campus with him where he was literally 45 seconds away for three years to seeing him maybe two weeks out of the last three and a half months. We have done three summers of long distance but we always knew that when school started we would be together again and we could hold on to that. Now I don't know the next time we can close the distance.
I haven't secured a job though I have an interview early next week though I was going to sign an apartment lease this weekend so I might have to postpone that until I have the interview. The daycare seems VERY interested in me though I won't know for sure until early next week. I also don't know how much pay is so I wouldn't want to accept a job where I end up broke. I was planning to move the beginning of June so I know time is ticking away and I don't want to be stuck in an apartment I do not like because I waited last minute.
I appreciate your advice because my SO and I are stuck. We try to talk about it but it is hard long distance. We are both so busy that serious talking is hard to squeeze in. That and serious talk is difficult for us because we talk better face to face. I have no doubt we can make it because after three years we are still together. It's just distance takes such an emotional toll on both of us.
Help.
I have the opportunity to close my LDR for three months out of the summer by me moving to my SO's city. We would be together for three months before he would leave another year (well nine months) for school. The problem I am wrestling with is he currently goes to school about an hour away from my house. I see him about every two weeks on the weekends. If I moved we would be two hours separated and I'm not sure I would be able to see him as frequently. My parents are trying to keep me home and while just being caring parents I'm not sure what to think. My SO is 100% on board with my moving and is very excited but at the same time has his concerns. We have briefly discussed the ninth months apart when he returns to school. Unfortunately that means I am in a new city alone. While that isn't a bad thing because I can sight see in the city and my family isn't that far away I just worry the distance will cause us to see each-other less and this one hour distance is difficult enough.
I guess my options are continue long distance all summer (my stomach turns at the idea) while saving money and having him closer when he goes back to school or have the summer together with him and be farther apart. I know that next May when he returns home he wants to like in the city so moving there and getting a career would help our future. I have been working two jobs (eleven hour days!) to save up enough money for the rent and for expenses that go with getting a new apartment.
I'm sure a few hours isn't that bad to a lot of couples but I went from living on campus with him where he was literally 45 seconds away for three years to seeing him maybe two weeks out of the last three and a half months. We have done three summers of long distance but we always knew that when school started we would be together again and we could hold on to that. Now I don't know the next time we can close the distance.
I haven't secured a job though I have an interview early next week though I was going to sign an apartment lease this weekend so I might have to postpone that until I have the interview. The daycare seems VERY interested in me though I won't know for sure until early next week. I also don't know how much pay is so I wouldn't want to accept a job where I end up broke. I was planning to move the beginning of June so I know time is ticking away and I don't want to be stuck in an apartment I do not like because I waited last minute.
I appreciate your advice because my SO and I are stuck. We try to talk about it but it is hard long distance. We are both so busy that serious talking is hard to squeeze in. That and serious talk is difficult for us because we talk better face to face. I have no doubt we can make it because after three years we are still together. It's just distance takes such an emotional toll on both of us.
Help.