Does your SO know?

[snow_girl]

Someone just made a comment in the quirks thread about hoping their SO doesn't come and read what she posted. I am curious how many of your SO's know you post here and if they know what name you post under? I think we have all written something on here we wouldn't want our SO to exactly know. Weather it be a rant about them or something embarrassing, is it something you would be okay with them reading?

I have mentioned several situations from here to my SO and got his opinion on things. He knows I look at a long distance forum but I've never told him the name of the site. I also post under a pretty vague user name that I don't think he'd figure out was me. I don't have any pics available to just anyone for him to figure it out either. I don't really have anything to hide from him that I post, but I wouldn't want him getting upset over something I said that maybe I didn't think was a big deal or was just written cause I was pissed off about something.

[ashleecarol]

I actually have conversations about LFAD with my boyfriend. I wish he would JOIN the site, but he loves his car forums too much to add one of mine :P He knows my user name because it is the same one for many other sites. He also knows my password, if he ever really wanted to get on to look around the site. I tell him about my posts and I think I have one or two that are about our problems, also myself ranting a little about him but he doesn't mind. He knows that in the end, we work together to work out our problems and my posts become history/meaningless He is actually happy that I am very active in the LFAD community ^_^!

[Micah]

My SO doesn't know. He isn't into computers and the whole online world, so he would never have interest in joining here, or hearing about this. I would be fine with him reading this because everything I say on here he is already aware of. I have nothing to hide from him or be embarrassed about, but I do consider this my private place that helps me cope with the distance. I don't talk to anyone about this place.

[Moon]

I've mentioned belonging to the forums here a few times, but he's not the kind of guy who would visit this kind of site. I'd tell him if he wanted to know, although it's kinda nice that he's not interested.

[folclor]

I tried to get my boyfriend to join here but he didn't think it was prudent ^^; so he likely doesn't know, but he'd recognize my graphic and username. There are likely things on here he'd be embarrassed that I've posted but... *shrugs* oh well.

[BlueCat]

I've told him that I'm on a forum for LDR's, though I didn't tell him the name of the site and he's never asked, though I'm sure he could easily figure it out from a quick google search. My username is a new one that he wouldn't be familiar with, but if he wanted to figure out who I was, it would be easy. All he would have to do is look in the introductions thread for one around the time I told him I joined and then read my first post in there (it would be pretty obvious to him regarding that story), and some of my posts mention our countries and various experience, so if he wanted he could figure it out.

I'm not going to stop him from reading things that I've posted, and although some things perhaps he might take offence to, I'd think he would understand the nature of the post in terms of a frustration to the situation as opposed to a frustration at him etc. I guess in a way, I wouldn't want him to read some of the posts, but at the same time, I'm not hiding anything from him.

Edit: Also the avatar, the counter in my sig and probably the parrots on it are a good hint, lol

[Trethsparr]

My SO knows I belong to the forum, and he has the URL to this site. He's been to Loving from a Distance a few different times to look at the famous "things to do" list.

He doesn't have a username here, and I've never felt a strong need to have him make an account. He's not real involved with forum communication, though, so I'd doubt he'd really use it even if he did. He'd know who I was from the graphic, signature, and username, of course.

Regardless, I've always tried to be respectful of him when I post, posting secretly if I felt I really needed it. I honestly don't know if he's ever looked at my posts, but they've never come up in conversation, and he's never asked me about my conversations here. It's nice to have a little area of the web where I can ask for advice if necessary. I might be a little embarrassed if he saw some of my more effusive statements about him, but I'm not hiding anything from him. I like to be an open book if asked.

[redbellepepper]

my SO knows all about the sites/communities/forums that i go to or share info about us. i let him know about it. among all the forums, he likes LFAD because he feels that this community helps me a lot to better understand what LDR is and how it works best for us. this is the first time that i got into LDR.

[Mara]

He knows I'm on a long distance relationship forum, but he doesn't know the url to the site or my username or anything. I wouldn't mind if he read my posts and things, but everything I say on here he knows about or probably could guess at so there's really no point.

[knhdarw]

I told him I have a great place where i can talk to lots of other people who are in LDR's also and that ive met some people who are going strong 4-11 years as a LDR and that it gives me strength and hope he loves the idea cause it makes me less sad and i dont think about it as much

[13000km]

My boyfriend's on here as well, we joined the forums together early this year when I was struggling with the distance. He doesn't post a lot, but at least he can see the threads I'm talking about when I talk about the forums to him. He likes that I find comfort here. (:

[JEREIANEDREI]

the last time we were talkin' in skype,my SO ask me what makes me busy and he noticed that he saw me smilin' while lookin at my screen,.that's why he was been curious about what caught my interest..then I told him I'm in a forum..I told him its about LDR's,.then he keeps on asking whats on the site I told him its nice to be here coz I learn a lot from the community..thats why he's been too curious,.so he ask me whats the site name and whats my username and password,..no need to hide,.I trust him..

then what makes me smile the most coz my SO joined the group too....

[nicole]

no he doesn't and I don't think he would be bothered with it either. He;s not into forums or anything, neither was I before we went LD. This is my own little corner of the internet I can rant and be with people in the same situation as I am. I have mentioned like "Oh one of my friends mentioned..." about LFAD, but that's about it.

[mouse411]

My boyfriend doesn't know that I'm on here. I do enjoy that this is a private place where I can come for support and my concerns. He doesn't use his computer for anything but entertainment really. He just plays video games, watches funny videos, uses FB and talks to me, so I really don't think he would come to a site like this. But I, like everyone else here am not trying to hide anything from him. If he found this site it's be very easy for him to figure out who I was because of my avatar and my screen name. I wouldn't mind at all if he read my posts.

[elina]

It was Sam who found this site first He was on the old LFAD but didn't tell me about it for some reason >((((( haha. Then after it had changed.. he joined again, told me about it and I joined on the same day.
Soooooo yeah, he knows I'm on here and he can see my posts