Hey all,
I have a bit of an issue. I'm really scared and worried something might happen when she goes out. She will go out with her friends sort of as a last get together before she finishes high-school. It's open bar and she wants to get drunk. She never managed to and she says she just wants to be drunk once. I'm not really pro-alcohol at all, but I understand it's something she really wants to do just once and such...
Even so, I'm scared to death something might happen, haha. We had a long talk and I treated her a bit like a little kid. Saying things about alcohol and such. In the end I apologized and I realized she's not irresponsible and she's with friends and such. It'll be okay. But I can't shake the feeling. Also when she goes to college, there is like this initiation where people get drunk and make others do stuff and cut hair and all these wild things. I probably won't be there for that either.
I am so worried not necessarily of what she will do at all, but more about guys or other people doing something bad to her. I can picture the scenarios... and I feel so bad. I know it's silly, normally nothing happens and it's not healthy to just sit inside all day. It's good to go out from time to time too if you like that. Not go completely wild, but yeah. Whenever she has really bad cramps it's the same thing... I'm so worried for her health and safety. Once a guy on the street put a gun to her face and stole her mobile. She got lucky he didn't do more, but I was so damn sad and scared. I cried, even though she was crying out of fear and because of what happened, I cried too... I felt awful for her, but I also felt awful, because I couldn't do anything and I'm damn scared that she might get hurt sometime.
What it comes down to is that I'm going to let her go and I don't want to make her feel bad just because I worry a lot. She knows I do, but she needs to do things she love and I know she takes what I feel and I think already into account. I'll support her, of course. It's more how I can handle these worries. I know when she goes I'll be pacing around my room going crazy here. I only wish I could be with her all the time, but that's not healthy or good either... I don't know what to do.
I love her to death... I can't handle her getting hurt...
Thanks so much for any comments, advice, input,
Have a nice day,
San.
I have a bit of an issue. I'm really scared and worried something might happen when she goes out. She will go out with her friends sort of as a last get together before she finishes high-school. It's open bar and she wants to get drunk. She never managed to and she says she just wants to be drunk once. I'm not really pro-alcohol at all, but I understand it's something she really wants to do just once and such...
Even so, I'm scared to death something might happen, haha. We had a long talk and I treated her a bit like a little kid. Saying things about alcohol and such. In the end I apologized and I realized she's not irresponsible and she's with friends and such. It'll be okay. But I can't shake the feeling. Also when she goes to college, there is like this initiation where people get drunk and make others do stuff and cut hair and all these wild things. I probably won't be there for that either.
I am so worried not necessarily of what she will do at all, but more about guys or other people doing something bad to her. I can picture the scenarios... and I feel so bad. I know it's silly, normally nothing happens and it's not healthy to just sit inside all day. It's good to go out from time to time too if you like that. Not go completely wild, but yeah. Whenever she has really bad cramps it's the same thing... I'm so worried for her health and safety. Once a guy on the street put a gun to her face and stole her mobile. She got lucky he didn't do more, but I was so damn sad and scared. I cried, even though she was crying out of fear and because of what happened, I cried too... I felt awful for her, but I also felt awful, because I couldn't do anything and I'm damn scared that she might get hurt sometime.
What it comes down to is that I'm going to let her go and I don't want to make her feel bad just because I worry a lot. She knows I do, but she needs to do things she love and I know she takes what I feel and I think already into account. I'll support her, of course. It's more how I can handle these worries. I know when she goes I'll be pacing around my room going crazy here. I only wish I could be with her all the time, but that's not healthy or good either... I don't know what to do.
I love her to death... I can't handle her getting hurt...
Thanks so much for any comments, advice, input,
Have a nice day,
San.
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