what would yall do?

[knhdarw]

So I have been accepted into 2 different universities as a transfer student. and my parents are not very supportive of me being with my boyfriend. So my question is i can go to a easier university where i will be living @ home with my parents who will still have rules and try and keep me away from my SO. Or i can go to A harder big university where i will be living with a roommate who ive known for a few years and my SO could come and go as he pleased. They only difference in the schools is the one thats close to home is way easier and i could possibly graduate early if i go there and id be payed a little bit to go to school there. And the major university would be a bit harder but nothing i;m not ust to also it would be about 4 hours away from my family, but i would have the freedom to be with my boyfriend when he came in to see me and he could stay cheaper. So my question is would you go to the easier cheaper school where you lived @ home. Or would you Go to the school thats more expensive a little harder but your living on your own and have freedom to have you bf and not cause tension between you and your parents?

[196]

I would end up going to the bigger school, but not just for your boyfriend. Going to a bigger, more known university/college will do better things for your career. Just think of your boyfriend as an added bonus.

[knhdarw]

this is true i wanted to go there before me and my BF got serious last year. I'm just scared ill get up there and fail my classes or be unhappy up there cause ive never been away from home before. and i would also most likely be up there for possibly another year so instead of graduating in 2 years and moving to my SO it would be more like 3 years of school left...

[Zandria]

I would personally go to the bigger school, only because to me it seems more of a challenge. I think what your parents are hung up about is that I feel like you are choosing that school only because of you SO. It should be about the academics and what you will gain from going to that college. I mean, my plan is to go to graduate school after undergrad at one of the top five MBA programs in the country, before I met my SO. Though my so lives in Iowa, and some of the top schools are not located there, I happened to find one in Illinois, Northwestern University in Chicago. My mother got upset with me, because she thought I was going to that school because of my SO, and I was losing the idea about my academics. Part of it's true, yet that school was one of my top three choices before my SO, so it works out perfectly fine to me. Sorry, I'm rambling, but try convincing your mother you're not losing side of the schooling aspects, it's a tougher school, more rigorous programs and classes, tell her you'll benefit from going there. Try not talking so much about your SO, since she seems sensitive to that topic, lol! I hope that helped! [:

[Mara]

One thing I have to say is, different strokes for different folks. I attend a large university and I dislike it. It's too many people and I find it hard to concentrate. The university has a very good program for my major though, but the courses are harder than if I went to a smaller university. Overall, I think it will be good for me career wise, but it is mentally exhausting at times.

The one thing I will say is, even if you go to one university and it isn't exactly what you want or like, you can always transfer after a semester.

[Phimini]

The question you need to ask yourself is what college you think will best fit you. As said above, if you go to the bigger university it shouldn't be just for your SO. It should be a bonus. And if you find that it's not the right place after enrolling, you can always transfer.

And don't worry too much about the difficulty. When I was about to start I was worried about how hard it would be too. But once I got into it I realized it wasn't bad. It's certainly not a walk in the park but it's not horrible. If you've built good study skills and habits through high school, you should be okay.

[knhdarw]

ill be a junior in college this fall and and transferring out of a small liberal arts school because mentally i couldnt handle it when i started my freshman year there was 275 pre-medicine majors theres only 75 now going there well will be 74 haha :P.... But i think the best fit for me is the smaller school were i can say money while living @ home and working i want to be able to spend new years with my BF in his city cause i havent been there yet he always comes to me. because no matter where i go these next 1-2 years after that i'll have 4 more years at a major medical school so we shall see just pray i get into a medical or dental school somewhere

[13000km]

I'm kiiiind of in the same situation. I applied for school in Oregon because my parents preferred if I studied before I travelled, and it so happened that there's a great course I'm interested in in UO. I'm not really keen on studying, but my parents still have a fair bit of that Chinese mindset... I guess for me, if I was going to leave my home to study I'm glad where I'm going will be close to him.

The most important part of the decision is the school and the course you will be enrolling into. If that is something you are sure you want to do there then I say go for it.

[Stina83]

I would also choose the bigger and harder school. Like you said, it's nothing you aren't used to. Don't do it for your SO entirely, but it definitely is a nice bonus like everyone else on here said Follow your heart with that one