Me and my SO have been together for about 4 months now. We have our troubles as any other couple. But even though we're doing pretty okay now, I'm just unhappy.
I'm meeting her in about 2 months and I am really looking forward to it. However... The time until then is pretty unbearable. My current situation is quite complicated, but what it comes down to is that I'm pretty much isolated from any sort of social life due some psychological reasons. That will probably continue to be the case until after the summer, but that's another story.
The thing is that I feel incredibly lonely all the time. I don't feel like I have a girlfriend at all. I often catch myself fantasizing about my ideal girlfriend and stuff. How I'm going to get another girlfriend next year and finally be happy.
When I do talk to my SO via MSN, I'm incredibly moody and depressed. Though that's pretty much the mood I have all day, I keep taking it out on her. I start talking about how depressed I am (even though I am incredibly ashamed of that and normally not the person to start a pity party at all) and how much my life sucks. I usually get "OK" or "*hugs*" back, which causes me to get mad at her and it just isn't fun anymore. While I'm writing this, I was talking to her again about possibly having an internet addiction and I haven't gotten any reply at all in 20 (edit: 30) minutes. Which just pissed me off, even though I know I'm being selfish. The fact that she's playing some game on her computer in windowed mode (so she can see my conversation) and just ignoring me doesn't help. I can't know for sure, but 80% of the time that what she's doing.
We just never just... talk. It's always either me whining or her whining about life. And when we Skype, she usually gets distracted by whatever game she is playing and refuses to quit it. Because my native language isn't English, she sometimes has a hard time to understand me (especially since she's doing other stuff at the same time too and fails to concentrate, because my accent isn't that bad; I just tend to mumble a bit when I don't know how to pronounce a certain word), so I can't ever tell her a story.
Okay, I'm rambling now, but the point is that I'm just really really unhappy. I love her and she loves me (maybe more than I love her) and I don't want to break up before I meet her for the first time. I feel like that would be missing out on something great.
I just know that she tries so hard to make me happy, yet most of the things she does just annoy me and piss me off. And knowing how selfish that is just makes me mad at myself and then... yeah. Never ending cycle.
I just don't know how to get through this. I really do not want to break up until meeting her. But I don't want another 2 months of being miserable.
I guess my question is: How do I make these 2 months before meeting her bearable?
PS: If this is unclear, I'm sorry. I'm not very good at putting my thoughts into words. It's not like we're fighting all the time and I am happy to have her. Just not happy with the LDR. I mean if we were close to each other, I'm pretty sure we'd be the best couple ever. It's the LDR that's mostly getting on my nerves, since it lacks so many things and makes everything just so much harder.
I'm meeting her in about 2 months and I am really looking forward to it. However... The time until then is pretty unbearable. My current situation is quite complicated, but what it comes down to is that I'm pretty much isolated from any sort of social life due some psychological reasons. That will probably continue to be the case until after the summer, but that's another story.
The thing is that I feel incredibly lonely all the time. I don't feel like I have a girlfriend at all. I often catch myself fantasizing about my ideal girlfriend and stuff. How I'm going to get another girlfriend next year and finally be happy.
When I do talk to my SO via MSN, I'm incredibly moody and depressed. Though that's pretty much the mood I have all day, I keep taking it out on her. I start talking about how depressed I am (even though I am incredibly ashamed of that and normally not the person to start a pity party at all) and how much my life sucks. I usually get "OK" or "*hugs*" back, which causes me to get mad at her and it just isn't fun anymore. While I'm writing this, I was talking to her again about possibly having an internet addiction and I haven't gotten any reply at all in 20 (edit: 30) minutes. Which just pissed me off, even though I know I'm being selfish. The fact that she's playing some game on her computer in windowed mode (so she can see my conversation) and just ignoring me doesn't help. I can't know for sure, but 80% of the time that what she's doing.
We just never just... talk. It's always either me whining or her whining about life. And when we Skype, she usually gets distracted by whatever game she is playing and refuses to quit it. Because my native language isn't English, she sometimes has a hard time to understand me (especially since she's doing other stuff at the same time too and fails to concentrate, because my accent isn't that bad; I just tend to mumble a bit when I don't know how to pronounce a certain word), so I can't ever tell her a story.
Okay, I'm rambling now, but the point is that I'm just really really unhappy. I love her and she loves me (maybe more than I love her) and I don't want to break up before I meet her for the first time. I feel like that would be missing out on something great.
I just know that she tries so hard to make me happy, yet most of the things she does just annoy me and piss me off. And knowing how selfish that is just makes me mad at myself and then... yeah. Never ending cycle.
I just don't know how to get through this. I really do not want to break up until meeting her. But I don't want another 2 months of being miserable.
I guess my question is: How do I make these 2 months before meeting her bearable?
PS: If this is unclear, I'm sorry. I'm not very good at putting my thoughts into words. It's not like we're fighting all the time and I am happy to have her. Just not happy with the LDR. I mean if we were close to each other, I'm pretty sure we'd be the best couple ever. It's the LDR that's mostly getting on my nerves, since it lacks so many things and makes everything just so much harder.
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