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My SO and I live oceans apart, in different continents. We had first "met" on another online community last year, and have been in a fantastic and loving relationship ever since. We've even had been lucky enough to meet once since then, and it was the most wonderful meeting.
Ok this is what happened recently. He told me (while chatting) that he'd send me a gift by post. I told him not to bother, since I am not so big into material stuff and did not want him to take the trouble, but he really wanted to send me something and so I said sure! So anyway, a couple of days later he said he had put it in the mail and that it was on its way. And he told me that what he was sending was meant to be a special surprise for me. I was so excited, because it was to be my first gift from him and I love surprises and suspense. I wanted to discover for myself what it was.
Anyway around then I happened to log into that other online forum that we're both members of (like I mentioned above) and was looking at the latest threads and blogs..... and I saw that in one of the threads he had posted a pic of that gift he was sending me (was a cute locket pendant) for our mutual "friends" and all other members on that forum to see! I saw many comments from them, including "Wow I wish I had a bf like you" etc. And I was really disappointed!! I was disappointed that he had to spoil my surprise before I even found out what it was, and had to PARADE it in front of others on that forum, most of whom were strangers whom we haven't even met!
Anyway, I expressed my discontent to him during our subsequent chat. I asked him why he had to spoil my surprise and how much a surprise like that meant to me.... and that such things ought to be special and private, at least until it reaches the receiver. He totally refused to acknowledge that he did anything wrong..... and nor did he apologise. He was totally adamant, which is not like him at all!! He said he wanted to show off his love for me to other members of the forum, and that there's absolutely nothing wrong with what he did. A bit of an argument followed. We rarely ever have arguments!
Now you all plz tell me, who was in the wrong here? Was I right to feel bad that he ruined that surprise? Or did I overreact? I may have! Do tell me honestly what you all think.
My SO and I live oceans apart, in different continents. We had first "met" on another online community last year, and have been in a fantastic and loving relationship ever since. We've even had been lucky enough to meet once since then, and it was the most wonderful meeting.
Ok this is what happened recently. He told me (while chatting) that he'd send me a gift by post. I told him not to bother, since I am not so big into material stuff and did not want him to take the trouble, but he really wanted to send me something and so I said sure! So anyway, a couple of days later he said he had put it in the mail and that it was on its way. And he told me that what he was sending was meant to be a special surprise for me. I was so excited, because it was to be my first gift from him and I love surprises and suspense. I wanted to discover for myself what it was.
Anyway around then I happened to log into that other online forum that we're both members of (like I mentioned above) and was looking at the latest threads and blogs..... and I saw that in one of the threads he had posted a pic of that gift he was sending me (was a cute locket pendant) for our mutual "friends" and all other members on that forum to see! I saw many comments from them, including "Wow I wish I had a bf like you" etc. And I was really disappointed!! I was disappointed that he had to spoil my surprise before I even found out what it was, and had to PARADE it in front of others on that forum, most of whom were strangers whom we haven't even met!
Anyway, I expressed my discontent to him during our subsequent chat. I asked him why he had to spoil my surprise and how much a surprise like that meant to me.... and that such things ought to be special and private, at least until it reaches the receiver. He totally refused to acknowledge that he did anything wrong..... and nor did he apologise. He was totally adamant, which is not like him at all!! He said he wanted to show off his love for me to other members of the forum, and that there's absolutely nothing wrong with what he did. A bit of an argument followed. We rarely ever have arguments!
Now you all plz tell me, who was in the wrong here? Was I right to feel bad that he ruined that surprise? Or did I overreact? I may have! Do tell me honestly what you all think.
and I like being anonymous on the web. It doesn't irk me so much that people can see the stuff, but thinking that some person I went to school with 10 years ago can download private pictures of my hubby and me is kinda disturbing...
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