FINALLY closing the distance! :) :) Advice please....

[Karringtyn]

I would LOVE to have any any any input. As some of you know...I am out to CLOSE THE DISTANCE! It will be happening most likely within the next few weeks. My SO has decided to rent out his house and move here. He is just securing his job transfer and things will then happen. He is busy cleaning out his home and finishing packing.

It is REALITY! It is very overwhelming..I have wanted this for SOOOO long and it is HAPPENING! There is a part of me holding my breath till it truly happens.....but I do just take it one day at a time..I now KNOW that it is going to happen very soon.

My question...for those that HAVE closed the distance...ANY advice for the transition? Any advice at all? What do you wish you had known..or done differently?

I have been married..I know what it's like to live with someone...did that for 16 years...it's the other things I am thinking about. Going from visits..to having them here 100 percent...


I appreciate ANY words of wisdom!

[Caitlin2009]

yaaaaay!!!! *big huggles* no advice for me as im hopefully gonna do the same in a few months but im happy for you

[13000km]

Congratulations! Closing the distance is exciting! We JUST closed the distance so we're also still trying to figure it all out. So far, I have one piece of advice: make a list of what to pack and stick to it. I forgot quite a few small things that I'm going to need my brother to send me once he's at home. /:

All the best to you guys!

[Rach321]

I'm closing the distance in 3 weeks! Things are going well, but it's definitely a strange feeling. He just left this morning for a weekend visit to bring a truckload of stuff back with him. I was surprisingly sad to see him leave, since he'll be back again in two weeks to get my furniture, and I'll head up the following weekend to be with him.

The only thing that worries me is that he keeps bringing up (although in a joking way) that he's afraid I'll get tired of him if we're together all the time. I'm not sure why he thinks that way, but I can see how we might miss the excitement we feel about visits. I also imagine it will take some adjusting to really combining our stuff and our lives. We both feel at home in one another's places, but it's different to start combining everything into one home. We've been really careful to start saying things like "ours" instead of "mine." He's been especially careful of it because we're moving into his childhood home, so he wants me to know that I'm very welcome there.

I'm SOOOO excited for you!!!

[mllebamako]

All I can say is I am soooooooo happy for you. Seriously, I've been waiting to hear this news out of your mouth (hands?)!

I don't really have any advice besides: be patient. This is something I wish I would've been better at. I expected things to be back to normal or perfect right away. But the past 2 months have been and are still a huge period of adjustment, even though we'd already lived together. So..(and I'm trying to hammer this advice into my OWN head): be patient.

Other than that, just remember that you've got dozens of people on LFAD really rooting for you guys! I am so happy for you.

[Riyko]

One thing and it's very important is while you will be together 24/7 don't forget you both need space and breathing room, while it'll be nice to have that person around all of the time, without having your own space will cause a lot of fights

[loveknowsnodistance27]

Congrats! Being close distance is amazing...best of luck to you both!

[garnet]

Yaaaay! I'm so happy to finally hear this news! You know what is going on with me, and this news is a bright spot in some dark days. Hugs to you, couldn't be more thrilled this is happening.

When we closed our distance, we didn't really have problems or fights or irritations like I know some couples face, it was more just getting used to the new normal, if that makes sense. Like oh wow, I need to not lie in the center of the bed now or Rane will be on the floor. :P It was getting used to the way he does things, and standing back and not picking at him if it wasn't exactly my way. It was seeing the most authentic Rane, who is a little rougher around the edges than he was even on month long visits. The one thing, it was WEIRD not to skype. All of a sudden he was there, and sometimes I actually felt the urge to type it out. He did too. Now, we share a computer room, but we still email each other once a day. That is what our relationship is founded on, and keeping it alive was good for us! Sometimes we can still say things easier that way. Or sometimes it is just a lovey dovey email. We still get the same little happy feeling when we see it in our inbox.

I can't wait to hear about your progress, and how it all goes once it has happened. <3

[Alexandria Lora]

Luce^^^ Congrats to you both!!! I have no advice, but I will definitely check back for the all the awesome advice to come from here...


CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

[Yaaamiii]

Congrats!! You're so lucky! I've still got about 2-3 years to go jaja...-sigh- By then, I'll be asking you for advice jaja

[lucybelle]

Oh congratulations!!! Keep us posted with new updates!!

When my SO moved in we had a pretty easy transition which surprised me. We had really only spent a total of maybe 2 or 3 weeks together (including dates) and we have worked out really well. I would make sure to talk about finances. Even though my SO and I worked out an agreement before he got here, it still seems like I pay for more stuff which sometimes bothers me. Make sure to keep open communication. It was important in an LDR, it's just as important in a CDR. Also-- stock up on toothpaste and toilet paper. Men sure seem to go through that stuff.

And last but not least HAVE FUN!!! ENJOY YOUR CDR YOU LUCKY DUCK YOU!!! Remember that this is what you wanted for soooo long!

[MissShortie]

YAY!!! I am so excited for you! Congrats!!

Sorry no advice here, but the lovely ladies that have given you advice have done a pretty good job of it if you ask me

[Sano]

I dont have any advice
But Im really excited for you! XD
Good luck!!!

[Tanja]

Luce!!! I told you this day would come sooner than you think and it did!!! Wow. FINALLY lol.

I don't have too much advice to give cause every couple is an individual so it's hard to tell how you'll be when you're finally together for good... but what I've found quite hard is letting go of my independence and letting Andy do stuff. At the start if he didn't do something MY way I got very annoyed but I'm sloooowly getting past that

Mostly it's a bliss living with your SO - a dream come true. But I find that sometimes I want to be alone and have my own space, it can be frustrating when no matter where you go the same face is there 24/7. It's a hard transition going from talking online whenever to actually physically being with him every day. It does take some learning from both of you. I guess the best thing to do is to sit down and talk everything through: how you want to treat/raise the kids, how to handle money and bills, who takes care of housework and chores, what are the things you want/need to decide on together. That talk can help you a lot.

Advice finished -----------

Going crazy initiated ---------

CONGRATULATIONS LUCINDA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!! YOU GUYS MADE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Rugger]

No advice, but I'm incredibly happy for you!!! Congratssss