Okay so my partner has a habit of preferring to do other things than skype with me. I know that sounds bad, so I'll go into a little bit more detail.
We chat over facebook, and MSN pretty much every day, and we will skype a number of times per week. He lives east coast USA, and I live in sydney so we have a large time difference. We often skype when he's going to bed, and pretty much talk right up until he falls asleep and then I'll end the call.
Now, I usually will drop everything I'm doing to have a skype date with him.. pretty much because I love listening to him talk and it makes my day. He says the same. However, he often won't do this. When I know its getting late for him, I'll ask him if he wants to talk and if he's busy, he'll say "oh, gimme half an hour, after I finish this episode of the office and then we'll chat
," (he hasn't done this in a while though but it used to upset me). Or sometimes he'd say no, because he wanted to fall asleep while watching a movie instead of talking to me.
I basically stopped asking to call him because I was shut down almost every time like this. So now I am at his beck and call. We only skype when he's not busy, or when I muster up the courage to ask in hopes I won't get shut down again. Tonight we didn't skype because he chose a movie to fall asleep to. I got upset for a minute and shook it off and had to mentally slap myself and do other things to take my mind off it.
He has a lot of time on his hands, and I just feel like he could pick other times of the day to do this.
I have spoken to him about this and told him that whenever I ask him he says no, and he initially was like "nooooo I don't" but then he told me he was sorry and didn't mean to hurt me. Is it rational to be upset over this issue? Would you consider it trivial? Have you been through the same?
(you might probably say, pick another time of the day to skype him, but its not the same. I like being able to fall asleep with him even if its for a short while and listen to him breathe.
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We chat over facebook, and MSN pretty much every day, and we will skype a number of times per week. He lives east coast USA, and I live in sydney so we have a large time difference. We often skype when he's going to bed, and pretty much talk right up until he falls asleep and then I'll end the call.
Now, I usually will drop everything I'm doing to have a skype date with him.. pretty much because I love listening to him talk and it makes my day. He says the same. However, he often won't do this. When I know its getting late for him, I'll ask him if he wants to talk and if he's busy, he'll say "oh, gimme half an hour, after I finish this episode of the office and then we'll chat
," (he hasn't done this in a while though but it used to upset me). Or sometimes he'd say no, because he wanted to fall asleep while watching a movie instead of talking to me.I basically stopped asking to call him because I was shut down almost every time like this. So now I am at his beck and call. We only skype when he's not busy, or when I muster up the courage to ask in hopes I won't get shut down again. Tonight we didn't skype because he chose a movie to fall asleep to. I got upset for a minute and shook it off and had to mentally slap myself and do other things to take my mind off it.
He has a lot of time on his hands, and I just feel like he could pick other times of the day to do this.
I have spoken to him about this and told him that whenever I ask him he says no, and he initially was like "nooooo I don't" but then he told me he was sorry and didn't mean to hurt me. Is it rational to be upset over this issue? Would you consider it trivial? Have you been through the same?
(you might probably say, pick another time of the day to skype him, but its not the same. I like being able to fall asleep with him even if its for a short while and listen to him breathe.
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Oh and I do understand that people need "their time"as well but rely all your asking is for a few min before he sleeps!
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