SO keeping ex gifts..

[littleone]

I have kept stuff from exs because either I like it or use it or have a good memory from it. Don't see it as big deal IMO. But that's just me

[nicole]

My SO has a pair of girl's jeans which he likes to wear on occasion (I know, I keep telling him he's a *little* bit gay ) which are his ex-girlfriends, it used to bother me in the early stages, but now I know the only attachment he has to them is the fact his bum looks good in them XD I can just pride myself that he can't fit into MY jeans.

Now we're getting married, it does bother me that the bed we will be sleeping on at first will be the one he's had since college.... and thus has done stuff with his ex's in it. I thought we were going to solve that problem because we were going to move to a 2 bedroom apartment and buy a new bed and mattress, but as we haven't... no new marital bed for me I dunno why that has only just started to bug me, it didn't before, but I will just have to suck it up and wait it out until we move *sigh*

Maybe buy him something cute to put on his shelf? And you know the longer you are together, the more things you accumulate between the two of you, so the ex's presents might slowly be thrown away anyway?

[uniquefem]

well.... ok.. i had something to admit to this craziness thing too.. i know i shouldn't be jealous as anything... he actually did say "oh, you like those stuff? you could take anything from there if you like it" but errhh.. no i don't want to take anything...

I think i just being jealous as i said.... and it doesn't really meant anything for him.

Well... i left both my roses shape ear ring there, under the "guardian" of the barbarian guy, heheh i re arrange the stuff there, as if the tiny ceramics guarding my ear ring there haha but he didn't notice it! so.. yes i left my stuff on the display... also a pink hair pin that he found (but don't know if he put it back there) ...well i left traces in his room for sure!

I just hope, its just nothing... i just found its bit weird when guys did thing what girls usually did like collecting the ex gf gifts... but yes.... after reading your comments here.. its up to everyone personality i guess.... beside those stuff are cute.. he arrange it as if it the small soldiers toy (like there is an epic story between those ceramics).

I will talk to him when he call me ...maybe tonight not really serious thing, but ... yeah i should say whats bothering my mind clearly even if its not a serious one like this!

[corde]

To be honest, speaking as a guy, it would more of a concern if it was kept hidden, that would seem to suggest that it was important and must be kept safe. Just leaving it out means that is where it's always been and removing it would just mean empty space that something else would need to fill.

[TheBadRomancer]

I wouldn't have them displayed everywhere... /:

[Kiara]

I'm curious to know what he tells you when you call him tonight...

[uniquefem]

hahah i hope its only like its not that important!! and he just think its cute.... he does like small tiny stuff... but too bad its not like action figure... errh thing that i usually see in a boy room hahah (not ceramic dolls!)

[uniquefem]

ok guys update:

I talk with him about this after talking about some other things in the beginning. He said which gifts? i said the one that on shelf and he said the cat pillow? i said its the whole thing!

Then its clear i got wrong idea. Its just the cat pillow from his gf the stuff on the shelf is belong to him. He bought some of the ceramics from Sweeden when he went there so yah.... he also found my roses ear ring and he said hes ok to let it there! its for my signature hahah like i always did on manga that i draw!

Its clear misunderstood thing he said that time and also.. hes not that really care about ex stuff... so i had nothing to worry about.


Case closed i guess thanks guys!!