Need Help! Quitting Smoking!

[SeaLover]

Hello everyone.
So I just got off the phone with my SO and she just gave me wonderful news. She's gonna quit smoking!
She plans to finish off this carton by July 19 and not buy another cigarette after that. She and her friend had decided that they were gonna quit together since it's easier to quit with someone. So she's got a "quit buddy" and she will try the gum and possibly pick back up on her cross-stitching.
I've told her how proud I am of her for making this decision on her own and that I will support her 150%. I just really wanna see her quit so much but I'm not sure what else I can do.

So my question is, does anyone have any tips to help me to help her stay motivated to quit?
Any advice will be greatly appreciated.

[Riyko]

Be paitent with her, she will get a bit moody due to the nicotine withdrawals and let her know when she really wants one that you are proud of how far she's gotten, maybe a small points of her quitting send her something or make her something so she'll keep at it.

[SeaLover]

That's a really great idea. I should think of something to do for her when she makes certain milestones and when she finally breaks the habit.

[Lina]

Other than offering her your support , there's not much to do. I remember when mom decided to quit smoking she had pretty hard moments to go through, she was moody and she even dreamed that she's smoking, lol. But dad always encouraged her and told her that he's glad and proud of her decision. Show the same thing to your girlfriend, the support and encouragements of a dear one make it all 100% worth it and easier And just as side note(regarding general tips for quitting), she shouldn't try the candy trick - when she feels like smoking, grab a candy instead. Better with dehydrated fruits.

[Tanja]

Here's a couple of threads about the subject, maybe you'll find some useful tips from there. Having smoked myself I can say that being supportive is VERY important! Even if she slips a few times do not accuse or blame her, just keep telling her that she's doing a great job. Once she gets through the first week it's going to get better and she can really start feeling the difference which will motivate her to stay on the road she's chosen.

Also I would advice her to avoid places where there are a lot of temptations. She's made a wonderful decision to quit and it is going to improve the quality of her life tremendously!

Attention all smokers!

Quitting smoking

[Xanahtas]

I really like the idea of sending her things. She will be moody at times but as everyone else said, just support her and let her know how proud you are and stuff I wish my dad would give up smoking! lol

[SeaLover]

Thank you everyone for the wonderful words of encouragement. We know it will be a tough battle, but We are also confident that we can make it out on top. Keep us in your prayers as we start this uphill battle

[cybunny]

When I quit over 4 years ago I did it cold turkey! It was not easy but, having the support of my So rely helped! Also knowing how much he disliked my smoking and that it was a major turn off also helped keep me on track! I also have kids that I want to set a good example for as well, so I did have a lot of reasons to stay on track which was a major boost! Just tell her to try and avoid going for drinks with friends for a wile as that is where the temptation is strongest! I dont think you ever get rid of the cravings 100%, because my grampy said he still had cravings after 60 of kicking the habit! gl

[Engel]

Im trying to quit for my so because i know it would make him feel happier. i smoke around one package per day, he is being hard on me, tickling me and talking no stop about me quitting smoking after i told him i want to quit. be patient with her it is hard. i want to quit but its really hard for me as well. i would love some advice too if possible

[Verojoon]

MY SO is quitting smoking. I was about to write a thread asking for advice, but noticed this old one...

He's mentioned he wanted to for a long time but other than once about 2 years ago, he never made much of an attempt. Right now he is so broke he cannot pay his bills, so he is looking at it as a good excuse to quit smoking... I want to support him and make sure he stays with it! It would make me so happy if he quit!

I told him I wanted to support him whatever way I could. And I am being patient with him. Luckily he is not prone to mood swings (unlike my ex-husband who was horrid when quitting!!) but he gets withdrawn and quiet... he knows he is not allowed to withdraw too much from me (allowed! ha! I don't mean that, it's just we noticed a pattern where if he got depressed he'd withdraw, and then he'd get more depressed, withdraw more, I'd get down, etc.) but I am trying to remember that his being quiet is because he is quitting smoking...

I also thought I wanted to make him a little quit smoking kit, gum, lollipops, something or other to keep his hands busy... But I fear that after the two weeks or so it would take to get to him, the worst of the symptoms will be gone... would he still have a need for these items? I don't have much money to be spending on care packages right now (and am preparing him one I'll be sending in a couple weeks) so I don't want to send soemthing unless it will be useful.. what do you think?

Also any other suggestions on how I can be supportive!!?