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[loveanewyorkwoman]

I'm holding onto an issue that was going on and off for nearly a year. It could have potentially destroyed the relationship - we were in many fights over it - and it turned out to where her and I are both win/win on the situation and happy with it as it will remain.

I don't understand why I'm holding onto something that WAS an issue but is no longer?

[Zephii]

Sometimes you just need to have a little period for healing - time to realise deep inside that it is actually over this time.

[Lina]

'Cause it was bothering you then, you don't want the issue to come back and that makes you hold onto it now, as if only thinking about it irritates you. Now that it has been solved and both of you are content with the way it turned out, you just need a period to let go of it.