Am I in the wrong here?

[holdinghands]

In the end he said he would come two weeks after that. Thanks for all of your answers guys, they were really helpful

But now he's saying he might not come at all..............i hate it when he does this to me..........................

How far did he travel to see you? I'm sorry, but if my SO sprang a visit on me, I'd be beyond thrilled and I'd reschedule my movie plans with my girls. Movies are in theaters for months....who knows when I'd get to see my SO again. Hope it works out for you!

[beaton]

I get why he's upset, but regardless of what movie you're seeing, you made plans to do something with a friend first. He can't expect you to drop everything just because he decides to come down. If spending time means enough that it upsets him to miss a few hours, he can suck it up and go with you. Since he'll probably have no clue whats going on, I'd at least offer to pay for his ticket.
No one's right nor wrong- from his perspective, this IS just a movie, I get why he's upset, but you have a life.

[Tabitha]

I guess I'm the Harry Potter hater in this thread. Not a fan at all, but my SO likes it. I'm being forced to go see it sometime even though we're not LD anymore, so I'd definitely spend the time to see it if we were still LD. Every minute counts when you only get so few.

It's just a couple hours of time, so he should suck it up or get over it. The plans were made beforehand, and he needs to understand your POV.

[Tabitha]

I guess I'm the Harry Potter hater in this thread. Not a fan at all, but my SO likes it. I'm being forced to go see it sometime even though we're not LD anymore, so I'd definitely spend the time to see it if we were still LD. Every minute counts when you only get so few.

It's just a couple hours of time, so he should suck it up or get over it. The plans were made beforehand, and he needs to understand your POV.

[Darth_Taco]

Dump him! Harry Potter first! D:<

Seriously though, you made these plans before he decided to visit. Your life doesn't revolve around him, so you can't drop plans just like that for him. It's not like you told him he couldn't come either, so he's making the choice to act like a big baby. He needs to grow up and deal with the fact that you already had plans.

[Micah]

I agree with the others that your SO needs to suck it up and go with you or just deal with the fact that you have plans. And these plans only take a few hours out of the whole weekend, so to me it is really a non-issue. He can either go with you, or he can find something else to occupy his time for a few hours. Or, he can come an alternate weekend. I also give props to you for keeping the plans with your friend because a lot of people would probably ditch their friend in the same situation.

[Kat Marie]

When it comes down to it, it's about compromise. I don't think you should cancel plans you already made with your friend, and since I'm going to the midnight premiere and dressing up and am a Harry Potter fan, I understand that seeing the last movie is going to be fun and important to those of us who have grown up with it! Compromise is important in relationships. When I go visit my SO, sometimes he already has plans set up that week - once a week his friends and him meet up for a beer and to discuss classes and jobs they're working on. When I visit, I simply tag along. These meet ups are important to him and his friends, and though I don't drink beer and I get bored listening to them talk, I enjoy just being near him, and love when he glances over at me smiling and grabs my hand under the table. I think your SO needs to suck it up. I don't know the best way for you to tell him to do this, lol. He'll be spending time with you, regardless. If he's worried that he's spending money for gas and the hotel just to see you for less time than he thought, tell him to come next weekend instead!

You know what? I've always hated when my girlfriends dumped plans with me at the last minute to do something with their boyfriends. It's not a cool way to treat a friend.

I know it's an LDR and the rules are a little different, but if he can come this weekend or next, he must not be that far, so it's not like he's coming from Istanbul and you only see him when 17 year cicadas come out.

You made plans with a friend. He knew about those plans. You explained how important those plans are. He's not really respecting your feelings, but instead dismissing them: "it's just a movie." Well, to you it's not, it's time with a friend doing something you really enjoy. I get he wants to be with you, I get he's disappointed. But he should roll up the guilt-trip because that's not awesome to do over something his girlfriend thinks is important.

[Zephii]

I see movies that I don't want to see all the bloody time because my SO wants to see them. I think he should suck it up and go with you, honestly. No one is in the wrong though - and seeking a "right and wrong" approach can damage your relationship Better to try and understand each other. Good luck!

Even if I was completely against something and not a fan, I would go. Its what 2-3 hrs of a movie, and its not like sitting through it will be torture. But on the other hand it also depends on who is willing to give a little and compromise. You could also go for seeing the movie the next weekend, though he could also visit the next weekend.

[kaitycat]

Why not make a compromise? Tell him if he goes with you to the movie Saturday Night, he can choose the activities for Friday night/ Sunday. And honestly, in my opinion if he really doesn't want to go, then you're going to have to suck it up. The movie will still be in theaters after he leaves... sometimes when it comes to small things it's better to be happy than to be right.

[jennten]

I dunno, couples go on movie dates all the time. It definitely counts as spending time with you. Even if I hated Harry Potter (totally don't, btw) I'd still go with my SO to see it if it were important to him/it meant we could spend more time together.

[Yaaamiii]

I feel that perhaps it really depends on how often you see him...if I understood correctly, he knew you had plans before? Then I dunno, I would probably just suck it up I suppose. If I were him I really would just go with you though.

[Rugger]

He sprang the plans on you. You had plans to go see the move first. He needs to deal with the fact that you have a life other than him.