Am I in the wrong here?

[garnet]

Well if he knew you had the plans before he decided to maybe visit, I think he needs to just suck it up.

[Nate]

hm...
i can understand him...i mean i wouldn't be thrilled if my SO rather goes and see a movie than spend time with me...
but i can't understand why he just won't go with you (i mean it's what...2 hours of the movie then?!)

i don't think there is a wrong or right here...but if the trip is a big deal for him...i's be annoyed to...and if you guys don't see each other often then i'd be annoyed too...
frankly i can understand him totally

[holdinghands]

Why can't he go with you?

he said he doesn't want to and he'd rather spend proper time with me as he's not really a HP fan

---------- Post added at 01:12 AM ---------- Previous post was at 01:11 AM ----------

Erm, how often do you see each other? Is it a big deal for your SO to make the trip? When did you make the plans to see the movie? Before or after the visit plans? If you made the plans to see the movie before he planned to see you and he knew about it then I think he needs to deal. If you made them before but he didn't know it, then I can see why he's upset. If the movie plan just recently came up after the visit plans, then again, I'd be annoyed, as he seems to be.

I made the plans before but very recently so I have told him, and then tonight he just sprung it on me that he might come visit.

[garnet]

Erm, how often do you see each other? Is it a big deal for your SO to make the trip? When did you make the plans to see the movie? Before or after the visit plans? If you made the plans to see the movie before he planned to see you and he knew about it then I think he needs to deal. If you made them before but he didn't know it, then I can see why he's upset. If the movie plan just recently came up after the visit plans, then again, I'd be annoyed, as he seems to be.

[Rugger]

Why can't he go with you?

[holdinghands]

Basically, my SO might be coming to see me next weekend and we were discussing how exactly I would get to his hotel and stuff, and I said I could see him all day saturday but that I was going to see the new Harry Potter film at nine with my friends. He said I should cancel and go and see him, and I said no because Harry Potter actually is one of my favourite things of all time and me and my just as fanatical friend had planned to go and it was really important to both of us, and I knew I couldn't let her down. But he got annoyed and said that he couldn't believe that I could put a movie before him so I calmly explained how important it was to me but he's still annoyed. I didn't get annoyed with him and I said I was sorry. Also he could just as easily come the weekend after instead. Who is in the wrong here?