First crack...need reassurance?

[Jezah]

I don't know if you can really call this the first 'crack' in our relationship or not...but it is the first time that the distance has caused an issue.

I had an awful day at work, and told HBB about it on txt. At this point it was like 9pm here, so like 3am there. He was already super tired, but he stayed up for a little while walking to me on Skype on my cell while I drove home. Well, I warned him my battery would die before I got home, and so I didn't really go into much detail about my day...told him I would tell him when I got home. He agreed, and we kinda talked, keeping it light until my cell died. I finished my drive home, but when I got home he wasn't online anymore. I got a txt on my cell once it charged enough to turn on, saying I should call him on Skype when I get in. I tried, but he is offline and it won't go through. He must have fallen asleep.

I am not a needy girl. I know people need sleep, but the thing is...I AM NOT A NEEDY GIRL! This was my first (since he has known me) time when I actually told him I needed him, asked for help/reassurance. I am not mad at him, just angry at this distance and time difference that takes him away from me when I need him. I worry, what if I need him in the future...will it always be this way? As a girl who is usually too strong to even ask for help, when I do its kinda a big deal and to not get it...hurt. I don't blame him, I am just...hurt. You know?

[kaitycat]

I think it's normal to feel frustrated. If this were a normal relationship you would have been able to talk longer because there wouldn't be a time distance issue, or you would be able to see him in person and maybe all you really need right now is a hug. Why don't you try sending an email? Tell him everything you were gunna say in person anyway. Sometimes just writing about a bad day helps, and it will feel like you're talking to him, sort of *hug*

[Minerva]

It gets easier, it really does.

My SO is English too, and I've had this problem. When we were friends, our contact was more limited. It was hard and I might have had a breakdown or two (*whistles and looks up*), but I'd send off an email and we'd talk about it when we were both awake. It's strange how when I'm upset and need him, I've almost learned to put off my need until we can talk.

It's still new for you, you're still learning how to navigate the ups and downs. All I can say is it does get easier.

[Lina]

Even though I and my SO don't have to put up with a huge time difference, I still understand how you feel. It's frustrating not to have him close when you need his presence most, but it all comes down to patience. There will be many times when you'll feel like shaking your fist at the Time you have to wait and the Distance between the two of you, lol, but it will eventually pay off when you'll have him closer.

[NaNi]

My SO and I have a big time difference as well (10 hours at the moment; usually 12) and it's frustrating. We can talk once a week on Skype, but when I feel really low and just need to hear her voice or need some advice through email... she's either at uni or already asleep. It makes things so much harder sometimes.