Alright guys, got a situation and need some thoughts. I recently posted a thread about this but didn't get to much so I'm trying a different approach.
I have been out of a relationship with my ex for 3 years now, after a 5 yr relationship. We have been really good friends for the past 2 years. Even though I broke it off, I'm still in love with her and I know she's the one. She has said she has always had feelings for me, even while dating another guy for 2 years after we broke up. That relationship was all LD and our last two years was LD, so she says she doesn't want to go through all that again. I can close the distance at the start of next summer and most likely will, as long as things are still good. We text a couple times a day and video chat once a week. I would like to go from good friends to an LDR, but not sure what to do really without being together in person. When we are together, we act like a couple without the pda. We know so much about each other, our conversations are about our daily lives and then go kinda dull. Has anyone gone from long term friends to LDR? Even better if you got back together with an ex LDR? Any suggestions or pointers?
It's an overwhelmingly complicated situation so I thought by simplifying it, I could get a better perspective. Thanks in advance!
I have been out of a relationship with my ex for 3 years now, after a 5 yr relationship. We have been really good friends for the past 2 years. Even though I broke it off, I'm still in love with her and I know she's the one. She has said she has always had feelings for me, even while dating another guy for 2 years after we broke up. That relationship was all LD and our last two years was LD, so she says she doesn't want to go through all that again. I can close the distance at the start of next summer and most likely will, as long as things are still good. We text a couple times a day and video chat once a week. I would like to go from good friends to an LDR, but not sure what to do really without being together in person. When we are together, we act like a couple without the pda. We know so much about each other, our conversations are about our daily lives and then go kinda dull. Has anyone gone from long term friends to LDR? Even better if you got back together with an ex LDR? Any suggestions or pointers?
It's an overwhelmingly complicated situation so I thought by simplifying it, I could get a better perspective. Thanks in advance!
My SO and I were in a LDR in 1997 for not quite a year. We broke up because at that time it didn't seem like we were going to resolve the distance, but we remained best of friends for the following 13 years. During that time we were both in other relationships, and I even had a son. We stayed close, even though we didn't see each other during those 13 years, just calls and emails and text messages. Last June, he finally came to visit and we realized we should have been together all along, so here we are and we just celebrated our one year anniversary. It's nice having that long term friendship at the beginning because we skipped a lot of the awkward getting to know you phase. Not to say I still don't learn new things about him, but his reactions and thoughts are clearer to me that if we hadn't been friends for so long, and it makes the relationship smoother for us.
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