Hi all! First, I'm sorry I haven't been around much. I wanted to stick around even though my LDR had ended but he came back and asked for a second chance, then broke my heart again within the span of a week and I took it very badly. Anyways! Hopefully I'll be able to stick around for longer this time around 
. On to the topic!
My Ex has once again returned, and instead of begging to get back together, he wanted us to take it slower and see if we could work out. I was a little uncertain, but accepted to see where this would lead. However, I also found out that he had cheated on me a year ago when we were still together and (at least in my view) very much in love. What made it worse is the fact that he was with her for a month, and he had STARTED cheating on me only a week (or a few weeks) after he had come to visit me for the first time. =(
Even though my head was screaming 'Drop him and run, Girl!' I wanted to at least try and still be friends/whatever the hell we are right now. Maybe it was a mistake, I'm still not sure. Things have been going okay so far (it's been 2 weeks I think) but last night and tonight he's been avoiding me. I confronted him about this tonight, asked him why he was avoiding me. He said he doesn't know. I asked him if there was something wrong with me, and he replied with "well, there's definitely something wrong with me"
I asked him to just please talk to me (before when we were dating we were extremely open with each other, and he had always stressed that communication was important) but he said he doesn't want to.
I know that he's closed himself off from me ever since the first break up, so I can't say I'm too surprised. I'm worried about him though. I really am. I know there's something wrong with him, and he knows it too. He's constantly been hinting that there is 'something' he is struggling with internally and this has surfaced repeatedly after our break-up and subsequent on-off relationship.
After our 2nd break-up, the things he said tipped me off that he seemed like he was going through depression. He wouldn't admit it (who would?) and well...there isn't really a conclusion there.
He doesn't have a lot of friends, and his family isn't that close so he basically has no one else to talk to. I was pretty much his only 'outlet' in his life for 2-3 years and after he broke up with me he's been struggling with this "thing" and won't open up to me again. I'm just frustrated and upset, and honestly this is stressing me out on top of the fact that it's the last few weeks of my university summer semester so I've got projects/finals/essays galore.
I want him to get counseling, to go see a counselor and hopefully work through whatever he's struggling with but I don't know how to bring it up, or suggest it. Any suggestions?
(Extra Note: I know this post is fairly long already, but I feel as if I'm glossing over a lot of details, for those who would like to know more I'll probably post a giant blog post up after my midterm is done tomorrow)
. On to the topic!My Ex has once again returned, and instead of begging to get back together, he wanted us to take it slower and see if we could work out. I was a little uncertain, but accepted to see where this would lead. However, I also found out that he had cheated on me a year ago when we were still together and (at least in my view) very much in love. What made it worse is the fact that he was with her for a month, and he had STARTED cheating on me only a week (or a few weeks) after he had come to visit me for the first time. =(
Even though my head was screaming 'Drop him and run, Girl!' I wanted to at least try and still be friends/whatever the hell we are right now. Maybe it was a mistake, I'm still not sure. Things have been going okay so far (it's been 2 weeks I think) but last night and tonight he's been avoiding me. I confronted him about this tonight, asked him why he was avoiding me. He said he doesn't know. I asked him if there was something wrong with me, and he replied with "well, there's definitely something wrong with me"
I asked him to just please talk to me (before when we were dating we were extremely open with each other, and he had always stressed that communication was important) but he said he doesn't want to.
I know that he's closed himself off from me ever since the first break up, so I can't say I'm too surprised. I'm worried about him though. I really am. I know there's something wrong with him, and he knows it too. He's constantly been hinting that there is 'something' he is struggling with internally and this has surfaced repeatedly after our break-up and subsequent on-off relationship.
After our 2nd break-up, the things he said tipped me off that he seemed like he was going through depression. He wouldn't admit it (who would?) and well...there isn't really a conclusion there.
He doesn't have a lot of friends, and his family isn't that close so he basically has no one else to talk to. I was pretty much his only 'outlet' in his life for 2-3 years and after he broke up with me he's been struggling with this "thing" and won't open up to me again. I'm just frustrated and upset, and honestly this is stressing me out on top of the fact that it's the last few weeks of my university summer semester so I've got projects/finals/essays galore.
I want him to get counseling, to go see a counselor and hopefully work through whatever he's struggling with but I don't know how to bring it up, or suggest it. Any suggestions?
(Extra Note: I know this post is fairly long already, but I feel as if I'm glossing over a lot of details, for those who would like to know more I'll probably post a giant blog post up after my midterm is done tomorrow)
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