Hey everyone! I'm pretty new here, well to the message board anyways. My name is Cody, I'm 17...I've been in long distance relationships and in person relationships before. But the guy I'm in one with now is seriously the man of my dreams. We have been together for almost a month, not a long time I know. But I feel like I've known him all my life. We click really well, and we are very compatible.
He lives in California, and I live in Kansas, but I'm moving to Arizona in a week, then I will only be 5 1/2 hours away from him. He came and saw me last week, and the way I was treated was just amazingly well to say the least! I have a lot of fears that come up from my past with many different situations, but it has made me the man I am today. But what's different with Javier, my fears still come up but he helps with them without even knowing that he does, or the fears just vanish, because I confront them. He really treats me well, with respect, care, and love. Something I've always wanted, and it's taking some time to actually get used to being treated....right.
We have very good communication and respect in the relationship, some of the issues are, he is around his ex a lot of the time, because they work together, go to class together, they don't get a long but I'm getting texts from time to time, with him venting to me on what his ex is doing. How do I stay calm and not get mad about it? It doesn't annoy me, just kinda makes me doubt that he really sees me for who I am if that makes sense. But I like to listen and help people, I'm going to be going to school for Psychology to be a guidance counselor. And in his defense I do ask him what is going on, because I want to know what all is going on through his mind, since I can't see his body language, or hear his voice while he is at school or work.
I feel like if he stopped telling me those things, then it would lead to lack of communication, and then problems would start. Have any of you ever been in this situation? Thanks in advance, and thanks for reading all of this!!
He lives in California, and I live in Kansas, but I'm moving to Arizona in a week, then I will only be 5 1/2 hours away from him. He came and saw me last week, and the way I was treated was just amazingly well to say the least! I have a lot of fears that come up from my past with many different situations, but it has made me the man I am today. But what's different with Javier, my fears still come up but he helps with them without even knowing that he does, or the fears just vanish, because I confront them. He really treats me well, with respect, care, and love. Something I've always wanted, and it's taking some time to actually get used to being treated....right.
We have very good communication and respect in the relationship, some of the issues are, he is around his ex a lot of the time, because they work together, go to class together, they don't get a long but I'm getting texts from time to time, with him venting to me on what his ex is doing. How do I stay calm and not get mad about it? It doesn't annoy me, just kinda makes me doubt that he really sees me for who I am if that makes sense. But I like to listen and help people, I'm going to be going to school for Psychology to be a guidance counselor. And in his defense I do ask him what is going on, because I want to know what all is going on through his mind, since I can't see his body language, or hear his voice while he is at school or work.
I feel like if he stopped telling me those things, then it would lead to lack of communication, and then problems would start. Have any of you ever been in this situation? Thanks in advance, and thanks for reading all of this!!
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