My SO and I have been together for 2 1/2 years now. And most of that time has been LDR. We spend the school year 250 miles apart, but then we are together for the summer and any breaks I have. Recently I have been questioning if he is being completely honest with me. Tonight I got really, really frustrated and did something really stupid.....I hacked into his Facebook and read his messages. Which I know I should have never done, but what I found was awful. I found messages from a girl saying she wanted to cuddle, and making plans for him to go over and spend the night, which is sounds like he has done, or atleast planned to do. This girl has a SO as well which my SO brought up frequently, but never did his concern stem from being with me. He hesitated in the conversation to make plans last night to go to her house, and she fought with him why. He said it wasn't a good idea but eventually said he would. I called him out on this. He says that his brother was messing with his Facebook, and he doesn't even know who she is which is why he deleted her (which he actually did before I confronted him). I really don't know what to do. I try to talk to my friends but they don't understand LDRs to begin with. I know this wouldn't be happening if I was home, but that doesn't make it okay. I never, ever imagined him doing anything behind my back like this. I know him and this girl haven't kissed, or had sex, but to me cuddling is a huge violation of what we have.
When I brought up the conversation to him he got mad at me for snooping....which I do realize is wrong. But if it really was his brother why blow up and scream at me? Deep down I'm fairly convinced it was him talking to her.
I'm looking for advice from people that understand the complications of being in an LDR. Am I overreacting? Do I trust it was his brother? Or is it time to end this relationship and move on?
Thanks for the help!
When I brought up the conversation to him he got mad at me for snooping....which I do realize is wrong. But if it really was his brother why blow up and scream at me? Deep down I'm fairly convinced it was him talking to her.
I'm looking for advice from people that understand the complications of being in an LDR. Am I overreacting? Do I trust it was his brother? Or is it time to end this relationship and move on?
Thanks for the help!
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