The Ultimatum

[sweetshine]

Well I haven't had to yet. I'm not saying I wouldn't under certain circumstances, but I would hope it wouldn't come to that point.

[WakeUpSusie]

I think that ultimatums can be necessary for serious issues. I've given an ultimatum once and I've received one once. Both times, our relationship grew much stronger as a result of both of us getting our shit together on our issue.

[kteire]

I really don't like the idea of giving ultimatums, except in extreme circumstances as many people have said. I'd like to think my SO and I could work issues out as they come up... If there was ever an issue that he wasn't willing to work with me on, I'd likely question our relationship before going to an ultimatum.

[Minerva]

It's hard for me to think of an ultimatum as anything but emotional blackmail. As a matter of course, I'm against them. However I'm not so naive as to think they are never needed. But I would only use one as a last resort, and only if our relationship was on the line, or for a serious health issue (drugs, risking his or my health, etc).

[Zapookie]

I did once. He was doing nothing about handing in his passport application (to come and visit me for the first time) after 4 months of waiting. I didn't really follow through though lol.

[Sierra]

I used to think no, but I have had to in our relationship about really serious matters. Sometimes you just have to let someone know, hey this situation has to change or it's something I can't deal with, or you're being unfair to yourself.

[nic&matt]

My SO has actually given me a "half-ultimatum". He said if we weren't planning on getting married at the end of school(masters for him, bachelor for me), he wants to know now. He says he just can't go more than six years of dating without...well....*cough cough wink wink*. I didn't really want to get married right out of school, but dating and extra four years ontop of six does seems a little silly. I can't ask him to wait that long so I agreed. I don't want to lose him over something like that

[HollzHeartsChris]

Due to our current circumstances, making an ultimatum is unfortunately impossible