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[Sharon Q]

Tonight my boyfriend and I were supposed to watch a movie, we got about half way threw the movie and he got offline, or at least off chat, and I just started crying and now I can stop He got back on and said he was getting tired so I told him okay and that I miss him. He said he loves me and misses me to... I just let him go.. I should have told him before he got off that I needed him but I didn't say it.... and now I can't stop crying. I fucking miss him I fucking hate this I HATE it. We didn't even get to watch the whole movie... I was looking forward to this all week.

No in his defense his step sister was visiting so he may have got off because of her or it may have been computer problems.


God why didn't I tell him I needed him? I've been crying for 10 minutes straight. and my head feels as if it may explode... Ironic because we were watching the final destination the newist one.


I know the end result will be worth it but how the hell am I supposed to cope being away from him for 9 months and then only seeingi him on holiday and summer brake for a week each.... I hate this....

[LilyChiba]

I know how it is. After losing the ability to play with him on the 360, his cam and mic dying and not rp'ing as much, we don't really spend as much quality time as we used to when we met each other. We haven't even seen each other in person, so its starting to get really hard for me to stay sane right about now. We've been together just over a year and a half, and it looks to be about the three year mark before we'll be together for good. And that's only if the whole marriage thing works out, since I've seen people have a lot of troubles and I worry.

I think the only thing you can do is voice how you feel, even though its hard to at times or do something to distract yourself. I guess, that's what I do and it seems to keep me going for a bit longer. And this is coming from someone who doesn't work, having 16 hours a day to think about all the bad things. Being optimistic is very hard.

[kiara_silver]

I've had these low moments. And its hard being apart and on top of it not having enough communication. I think most LDRs have periods where they go through these low periods of just horrible miss. Just take it one day at a time, when you guys do talk, let out your feelings and communicate, and stay strong. Best of luck.

[Minerva]

*hugs*

I do this too. Sometimes I need him so much, but I don't want to act clingy, so I don't tell him. The problem with that is the feelings just linger, until a day or two later I break down or get upset with him for no reason. I'm learning to be honest with him, to tell him when I need him. I still don't have it down yet, I still hold back too much. But the thing is, when I manage to tell him I'm upset and need him, he responds, and I feel better rapidly.

I hope you feel better soon.

[Sharon Q]

See he used to live here in town with me and we talked every day. We became LDR because of a move and now he is with his mom in a sorta cramped house he has no privacy. We talked for a bit both of us have birthdays this month and he said he got me something. he says its small and when I talked to him on cam he was wearing the ring I got him before he left.


I know things will get better once he has his own room and space, ( they are moving to a house out in the country ) in november... so I just have to keep playing the weighting game... I know it'll only be 12 months till we get our own place but its so hard waiting. and I'll only be able to go see him for two weeks the entire time. He is allowed to visit me at the campus and I can pay for a hotel for us to stay in for the weekend.....

But the thing is work for them is just seasonal ..... So I'm not sure how often or even if he would make enough to do that....

his step-dad runs the business and Robert helps out when they need him to and they pay him a little bit of the profit.
So money for him is kinda touch and go so to speak.

I just I've never been without him ever since I've known him... even when we broke up we still stayed friends and hung out.... Before he left we finally got things healthy and his dad had to be a mother fucking prick and make him move to PA....
I miss my best friend... god I feel like shit now.... All this week I was so fucking happy because I found out I got a job and start school soon which means as time goes by I start my life with him and I build a career of my own....

Now I got knocked off of my happy high and I feel like someone shoved me off a fucking 10ft building.

[Minerva]

When your job and school starts, it will be easier. Nothing makes the time pass faster than being busy.

You're moving in together in a year? I know it's saying the obvious, but that's really not that long. When I'm obsessing about something that seems far off in the future, I think back to the past that same amount of time and realize how fast it goes. In other words, look back to one year ago. Does it seem that long ago? Probably not. So just think, a year from now you'll be able to look back to today and realize the year wasn't nearly as long as you thought. Thinking like that helps me anyway.

Take care.

[HollzHeartsChris]

We all understand how you feel Everyone in an LDR suffers these low periods sometimes and it can get really hard. I can get really clingy with my SO sometimes, but he doesn't mind because he understands how I feel and he can get the same way with me. Lately I've been feeling a little neglected because he's been playing loads of games with his friends on xbox and he's been leaving me out of it, but I told him how it was hurting me and that although I knew he had to spend time with his friends as well as with me, I told him that he hadn't gotten the balance right because he was giving them the majority of his attention and not so much with me. I just told him that I needed him, and it made him realise his mistake.

You just have to stay strong and keep on going. You have a 1 year left of waiting...it's not that long, and trust me when I say it will fly by so quickly you won't even know what's just hit you lol.