Always and forever

[Elissa]

Do you think those words add extra burden to a relationship? Such as saying "We'll be together forever" and then breaking up or saying "I'll always love you" and then finding someone else later in life. My friend and I were discussing this earlier and I wanted to know everyone's thoughts.

[archangel]

My former LDR girlfriend gave me a heart pendant with her picture etched on the front and "forever yours" on the back. Nothing lasts forever... Commitment is the only thing that matters.

[folclor]

Honestly, sort of how archangel said, it is what you make of it. If you are committed to each other then it's a wonderful thing to commit to. If you're not or if there's even a little bit of doubt in your heart, don't say it. Honestly, this phrase should probably not be used outside of marriage (assuming that you intend to keep the marriage together). In some ways the phrase sounds a very naive thing to say. However, I have to say that I don't believe it is. I've told my boyfriend that I will always be his, he has told me he will keep me for the rest of our lives. I'm okay with that. But I'm at the point in my relationship that if he asked me to marry him I'd do it without a second thought.

It depends on the choices you make in your life. But I feel like it could go either way. Certainly, though, if one person in the relationship is scared of commitment it'd be frightening for that one to hear a phrase like that. But is that not the difference between serious and casual relationships?

[kiara_silver]

I think when your with someone who you can say this to, you feel so sure about those words. So there true in the heat of the moment. I've told my SO that i belong to him, and he's said so many words of commitment to me. I'll tell him i love him, and he'll say always and forever, and i'll say thats the plan lol. I think these words shouldn't be taken lightly and always said with meaning, and maybe not to soon? Until your sure, I know without a doubt I want to marry him, and if we get married I know i want it to be always and forever. So i have no regrets or doubts about using these words, my love for him will always be forever. Even if we break up he's my first love and i'll always cherish these feelings. They say you never forget your first. So I plan to keep my word. We've never actually said we'll be together forever, just that we'll love each other always and forever. Im stubborn and determined to only be with one man in my life. so not letting him go lol even if he wants out, ill tie him up and keep him locked up lolz

[Sharon Q]

I just wrote my boyfriend a letter saying that he is the best thing that happened to me and he is the most amazing friend, boyfriend and soulmate. and I went on to say how we've been through a lot and we can make it through the distance because we love each other very much and the distance wont change that.

At the end of the letter I thought about putting forever yours, but I felt having " soulmate " and " forever yours" may be too much and I didn't want to overwhelm him,

So I ended it saying " your awesome girlfriend, Sharon "

We've already talked about having kids and getting married but still I don't want to make him feel smothered ya know?

I'm kinda worried that " soulmate " may make him feel overwhelmed because it's the first time I have ever used it... But we'll just have to see.

I believe that a relationships can last for the rest of your life once you meet the right person, But it takes talking and commitment from both people and you both have to focus on the needs of your partner as well as your own, both have to be loyal and faithful. It takes a lot of work from both sides.

[Minerva]

I can't make myself say we'll be together forever. I want to say it, I feel like we might be, and I'd say he's my soulmate if I believed in such things. But life has too many twists and turns to make that kind of promise. Even the best things in life can be derailed. That's just how it is. And I won't make promises I can't keep or tell pretty lies just to avoid hard truths.

I can honestly say I think I'll love him forever. My love for him is so deeply profound -- I've never felt like this for anyone. Even if I can't say we'll be together forever, I do believe I'll love him forever.

And all that said, I'm fully committed to making things work, and I won't give up on us without a fight. I'd cross hell for him and us, and I think he feels the same. I hope he's my last man, and if that's how it turns out, I'll be a very lucky woman.

[iloveacarpenter]

folclor: I think you stated it very well. I couldnt agree more.

[BoogleBee]

Hey, I had trouble with saying this a while back. We had a large argument about it actually, it was a very bad time for us. But we have come far since then .

I realised that this is how I feel -I want to be with my SO forever and ever and I love her so much. I am working towards our future together and am committed to her and this relationship.
I think it is alright to say .

[Lina]

I'm the type of person who is rather anchored in the present. We don't "own" our future, we can't predict what will happen, what changes will occur. So it's better (and safer, just for the record :P) to avoid "always&forever". At least this is how I feel about it. "Forever" is such a relative term, it's forever as long as you make it.

[HollzHeartsChris]

I think when you're young like my SO and I are, you can't help BUT say it lol. But honestly, when I do say it, I truly mean it because I feel that way and I'm fully committed to him as he is to me. And the best of it all is, we both know it about each other.

[squeeker]

My SO and I use these words together but I feel safe using these words with my SO because I know I can't imagine loving anyone else as I love him and I know I could never break it off with him because he means so much to me and I know I'd regret it so much if I lost him. It might sound naive to use the words always and forever but I don't care, it's how I feel and I know my SO is being honest with me when he says them too. IF anything ever happened where we weren't able to be together anymore, I don't think I could love anyone as I love my SO. As my SO and I like to call it, we are practically married to each other in our commitment to each other, we just aren't married on paper yet. So we definitely feel safe saying it.

[lucybelle]

We say it to each other, but I don't fully believe it yet. It's almost like I think we'll be together "forever" until we aren't right for each other anymore. Our "forever" might pass with time. I think if we spend forever together, then cool, but if not, that's just how life works.

[LeilaniJoi]

I never really felt "always and forever" with anyone else. The words themselves are hollow... they don't mean much unless the feeling is behind them. I know my ex never would say that and at first it kind of bothered me, but as we went on over the years I realized that I never felt it to begin with so it bothered me less. I guess it depends on the relationship and the SO. Frankly if you don't feel "always and forever" I don't see why you would be with someone and planning a long term life together.

But then, this relationship and how it feels is so soooo much different than any I've been in before it's hard to explain... so what do I know

[Moon]

When I was very young I used always and forever, but it turned out that forever was much shorter than I thought! So that's not a promise I'm willing to make anymore, I've learned that life can sneak up on you in the most unexpected ways and you can never predict how it'll turn out. I can easily see me and my guy growing old together and I think I have finally found the man who I'll always be with, but there's no need to add that kind of pressure to the relationship for us.

[LeilaniJoi]

Funny, I don't see it as pressure so much as I see it as commitment to that person. Like I said though, this is the first person I've ever been willing to make that kind of commitment to.