is this considered cheating?

[PlurAnnunaki]

I want to thank all of you on this fourm, i mean ALL of you who took there time to reply and give me advise....
i need to straighten up, and take it..... She is a dancer... so i shouldn't stop her from what she likes doing. I feel like a control freak now...
but i will talk to her about this today... i will apologize... and i will tell her to make the best of her high school years..

and then again i don't think you guys got the part about her saying "i felt like i was going behind your back"
and she felt that before she danced with him..... but now i understand that if she knew it was cheating, she wouldn't have done it at all...

much love to all you Ldrs... dont ever let go of your lovers....

[Ms.Justine]

Definitely not cheating.

[Kerry]

if she was also making out with this guy I think you'd have a right to be mad. just dancing? no.

[11MikesGirl21]

I'm of the other opinion. Where I know that dancing is not cheating, in my mind it still crosses a line.

My boyfriend is in CAP (think ROTC for grown ups) and it does a lot stuff with his old high school's JROTC. The girl in charge of JROTC at his old high school is going to the ball they're having in honor of getting the new CAP up and running. It looks bad if she doesn't have a date, so my boyfriend may have to escort her if he can't set her up with someone. When he told me this my two rules were: no slow dances and no grinding. He said he wasn't even going to go there and would leave after dinner anyway. That part of our conversation made me feel much better about the whole situation.

Talk to her about it, make the guidelines you would like to have in your relationship clear, but I don't think one dance that she is sorry for and you feel horrible about should be what ends things between you guys.

I just want to clarify that these guidelines were talked about because the girl who my SO may or may not have to escort, is very interested in him romantically and has been for years. She asked him out on a date a couple days ago, and almost invited herself over to his house in the middle of the night. Almost none of the people my SO hangs out with, guys or girls, respect the fact that he is in a relationship, and it's the same for me. No one on my campus respects the fact that I'm spoken for. So our "rules or guidelines" when we're separated are a bit more stringent, just to drive a point home.

[Tabitha]

Definitely not cheating.