s/o going out at night!?

[Sunnyside193]

My SO used to go out a bit to try and break up his Uni work... At the time i got a bit jealous cause he was never really talking to me he was either busy or out, but its wat he needed to relax. He doesnt go out to often now but i dont mind when he does

[SquishyLove]

Me and my fiance are both laid-back homebodies, and neither one of us goes out much. The thing is, everyone's social preferences are different. He and I both tend to prefer small and intimate gatherings with close friends over going out to bars or big parties. We're also in our late 20's and have gotten most of the partying out of our systems, and neither one of us likes to drink very much. We're both happy spending the majority of our weekend days chatting with each other on Skype (and I know for sure he's on the same page because he's reinforced it a few times that he prefers to spend free time with me because he misses me) because during the work week we have a 7-hour time difference and work schedules to contend with, so our time talking on weekdays is limited. We take advantage of the opportunity to chat for 7 - 10 hours on Saturday and Sunday. I don't think there's anything wrong with being a "homebody" if you're happy with it. He and I both did a lot of partying and going out when we were in our late teens and early 20's, and now we're over it. He does occasionally go on a weekend day to play paintball, but he gets back from playing early enough that it doesn't cut into our chatting time very much - he chooses a game slot early in the morning especially so we can chat, which I think is very sweet. Because I'm in the earlier time zone, I can have the gatherings with friends when I feel like it in the evening while he's asleep (like once a month I like to hang out with some friends), so it works out. We're both introverted people, it's just how we roll. When we live together, we'll open our home to entertain when we feel like it, to a few guests (our apartment is 1 bedroom so we won't have a space to have big parties anyway, maybe 2 or 3 friends at a time, max, and most likely for dinner and table games cause we're nerdy like that).

[ioanna]

i actually encourage him to go out more! he's been in LA for over two years now, and he still hasn't made real friends...i really wish he meets interresting people... even though we have very little overlap times for talking due to our time difference, i encourage him to go out, try new activities, and it's always been for the best we have more things to talk about when he comes back :P

[kat4301]

Oh its def common especially in certain situations. I encourage my bf to go out also but I am terrible when it comes to dealing with the jealousy that I can't be there. It also doesn't help that he's always a wingman with all his single friends. I agree with everyone on here that independence is important and being social is essential but it doesn't mean that I am perfect with handling it. I find it astonishing that for my bf and his friends, the only way they spend time together is if there is a lot of drinking. My advice would be to know where you stand with it all personally, and I truly believe that any attempts to control alcohol are futile and not particulary good for yourself.