amazing and..wow..painful

[Engel]

Just as an after thought, was it at the frankfurt airport? if yes, oh how many times i cried in there. and my so too.

[Dziubka]

Even two weeks hurt...

And... Frankfurt! I live 20min with the S-Bahn from that airport!
The next time you see someone crying there, ask them what their username on LFAD is.

[BoogleBee]

I've cried at Frankfurt airport too! Just thought I'd add. It gets harder each time for me too..

[Sunnyside193]

It was weird for us... when we first went LD he found goodbyes hard and i didnt now 8 months later its the other way around. I now find them pretty hard and him not so much. But it doesnt really get easier but as time goes on u get "used" to it.

[Jamibu]

Just reading these posts have brought me to tears remembering the pain of it all. We've only had two visits so far, and watching her walk through the gate as late as we can get away with it is the hardest thing I've ever experienced. It was at Manchester airport, and there's an area where it's the final point a non traveller can go. After that the path goes immediately behind a wall, so the moment she leaves my arms she's out of sight, I can't even watch her walk any further. Letting her do that was the most heart wrenching thing, and was both times.

We've just got her fiancée visa sorted though, she gets here in about 2-3 weeks, and the relief at knowing that I will NEVER have to take her BACK to that airport and do that again is the best feeling in the world. Of course we'll probably still experience that infernal wall when we go back to visit her friends and family, but I'll get to walk through it with her And if she ever does need to visit without me, it'll be for such a short time and with a guaranteed short return that we'll deal so much better.

That was the hardest part of the goodbyes: Being unsure when next we'd be able to be in each others arms.

[Kerry]

it took me about 3 days to feel better after I left my bf. I cried for the entire next day after I was home. he'll be coming up here in a couple of months and when he leaves I know that I will go thru it all again when he leaves. how I see it is if I didn't get upset then I wouldn't care and I wouldn't miss him.

[SquishyLove]

I think the fact that we get so sad and it's so painful after having to separate from our SO's is a testament to how much we love them. *sigh* I lived with my fiance for 6 weeks in Russia, and it was so hard and painful for both of us when I had to give him the last hugs and kisses until our next visit (planned in November around our 1-year), and walking away from him to go through security was the hardest thing I've ever had to do, and he said letting me go was the hardest thing for me too...he went to the parking lot to his car and cried while waiting for my plane to take off...and we both felt very raw, depressive pain for many days, crying together on our Skype chats when I got back to the USA...I feel like it's healthier to have a good cry when you're missing your love, honestly. Then, we began to feel better, and I think what helped was that we resumed our communication routine and kept in touch...it really helped us cope. We've both been depressive again lately missing each other, but with an upcoming visit on the horizon it will help us feel better, until, of course, I have to come back again and we have to go through it again. *sigh* Like someone else said, though, if it were easy and you didn't miss your SO, it would mean you don't care. I'm glad that it guts me so much to leave him behind, and that it does the same to him, because it means we love each other so much!

[GatoGirl]

I don't know about all of you guys, but the last day of the visit is terrible. I don't care what we're doing that day; I can't fully enjoy it because deep down I keep thinking about the goodbye. Judging by the amount of tears after I say goodbye, I think it's getting harder for me. I always cry, but I've cried a lot more during the past 2 visits. I'm not sure why. Also, the day after the visit is always horrible.

That's me exactly. I found some reading about LDRs that says this is like the separation anxiety of kids, only the adult version. We anticipate losing this connection that is so important to us, so some of us get really antsy before the separation. I know sometimes I'm really cranky, then I feel bad because I think, "Way to go, Suzi Sunshine! Spoil the last day you have to see this guy for who knows how long!" Then that makes it worse.

[Nate]

naah it was munich :S kinda don't like that airport anymore .. :P

[Nate]

well it kinda made me feel better as soon as we got in touch again via skype...still..it's painful and i don't even know what to do without her...watching movies bores me, going out bores me, eating bores me, sleeping bores me (well i can't even fall asleep because everytime i reach over there is just..nothing...then i am wide awake again...)

well at least i am joking arround again (in a very...sarcastic way but still!) we'll see...we even planned the next visit yesterday after she came home so that might helped too...

[loveknowsnodistance27]

Unfortunately, it never does get easier. I wish I could tell you otherwise. I find it tougher to see my SO go as opposed to me going. But, either way, it's still tough and only gets tougher each time you have to say goodbye.

[michellemybelle]

It doesn't get easier, but you learn how to cope with it. When my bf and I have to leave each other, I'm really sad that day, but we both try to put on brave faces. I try to save the crying for after he's left. My bf and I both know and feel like the happiness of being together in person (however brief it may be) far outweighs the pain of saying goodbye.

[sarahjane1992]

I don't know about all of you guys, but the last day of the visit is terrible. I don't care what we're doing that day; I can't fully enjoy it because deep down I keep thinking about the goodbye. Judging by the amount of tears after I say goodbye, I think it's getting harder for me. I always cry, but I've cried a lot more during the past 2 visits. I'm not sure why. Also, the day after the visit is always horrible.

So nope, it's not getting easier. Well, I guess the only thing that is getting better is that I'm becoming more adjusted to him not living 5 miles away from me anymore. I've found activities and other things to keep me occupied on the days when I don't visit. But overall, it's not getting easier.

I can totally relate to this. I just said goodbye to my SO yesterday and my heart just aches. I have the same problem of not fully enjoying our last day together. I love being with him, every single minute of it! I just know it's coming to an end. And that makes it awful.

[katiecat08]

My SO said he watched my plane till it took off. He said right at that second, he broke down. Flying back home was the hardest thing I've ever done. That is why we're closing distance soon. We can't take saying goodbye again.

[sarahjane1992]

My SO said he watched my plane till it took off. He said right at that second, he broke down. Flying back home was the hardest thing I've ever done. That is why we're closing distance soon. We can't take saying goodbye again.

I broke down on the way to the airport yesterday. When we got there, he lost it too. Once we said goodbye, I watched him go through security and up the escalator to find his gate. We waved at each other then I just lost it. I waited at the airport until he got to his gate. We want to close the distance in January. Just depends on our school situation and jobs. We can't take saying goodbye again either. It's too much. I left my heart at the airport yesterday. <3