Bringing Ourselves Closer Via Phone?

[loveknowsnodistance27]

I'd like your opinions on this. I'm thinking of having a phone conversation with Anthony soon and I want it to be a deep conversation, so I thinking of maybe doing a "relationship evaluation", kind of as a checkpoint for both of us. To make sure our needs are both being fulfilled, to make sure we're on the same page and just to bring us closer together. Like, I'll ask him how he feels about everything and if he has anything he needs from me so I can be a better girlfriend and then I'll do the same. Does this sound like it'd be a good idea? Also, you don't think he'd think that I'm questioning our relationship, right? I am so happy being with him that this is just something I think we should do every few months just do make sure we're both on the same page. It seems like it'd be good, but I just want to make sure I don't screw it up. Any suggestions are more than welcome! Thanks!

[kiara_silver]

I don't know him to say how he would feel about it. But as my own opinion I think it's a fine idea. I do this al the time lol not to evaluate him but for fun topics or to keep the conversation going. I always come up with questions to ask, and sometimes when im feeling blue and just want to hear it or the reassurance i'll ask him specific types of questions, like is he still happy with me, would he want to change anything ect ect. I think its a good idea, and there's nothing wrong with asking Q's

[loveknowsnodistance27]

Thanks for responding. It wasn't like I was going to interrogate him, I just want to bring us closer and get reassurance too. I can be insecure at times, so I kinda need to hear that sometimes lol.

[Madge]

My SO isn't really the type to answer these kind of questions especially when we are LD. But every guy if different..although I am not trying to be mean but was it in your prievous posts saying that he is really stressed at the moment? I dunno he might not want to have a deep conversation atm but then again I feel like I am comparing this to my relationship and I know my SO would not be a fan.

I do think it is a good idea I just wish I could do it with my SO

[Sharon Q]

I think its a good idea. Just start off with
" Before I ask this I want you to know I'm not questioning our relationship. I'm happy with it. But I was wondering...."
Then just ask what you want to ask,

[loveknowsnodistance27]

I think its a good idea. Just start off with
" Before I ask this I want you to know I'm not questioning our relationship. I'm happy with it. But I was wondering...."
Then just ask what you want to ask,

This is a good idea! Thanks!

@Madge: He was very stressed out earlier in the week because he had a lot of assignments due within a span of 2 days. He texted me yesterday, and he seemed 100x better and I could tell his deadlines had been met because he was just totally relieved and happy again.

[Madge]

@Madge: He was very stressed out earlier in the week because he had a lot of assignments due within a span of 2 days. He texted me yesterday, and he seemed 100x better and I could tell his deadlines had been met because he was just totally relieved and happy again.

Sweet! Gargh assignments are a bitch and are stressful! I hope the phone conversation goes well then

[loveknowsnodistance27]

Thanks a ton! =] I felt so bad for him, because I'm also a college student, so I know how hectic it can be when deadlines roll around. I'm sure it'll go great when we do talk.

[Bethypoo]

my so avoids this stuff and it drives me nuts. So if your SO will be willing to talk about it then i think it is a great idea! Besides, I think alot of couples should do a kind of evaluation of their relationships. But just dont get to pushy or try to solve things that arent causing problems. Other than that GREAT IDEA!

[loveknowsnodistance27]

Well, that was an easy conversation to have with him! He's the best when I get a chance to talk to him, especially on the phone! He apologized a million times on his own for being so busy, and I was very forgiving and understanding. I'll probably blog about it more tomorrow, I'm exhausted. I just feel 100 times better now that we talked and I am so giddy right now lol. I love this guy so much!!! (Always have, but now I feel renewed and refreshed and even more over the moon than before) <3

[Kerry]

I like that you are going to ask him how he feels about things and if he needs anything from you and vice versa. let me ask you a question- do you talk with him on the phone often?

[loveknowsnodistance27]

We try to talk on the phone once a week or so if our schedules allow for it. Otherwise, we talk maybe once every two weeks. It's a lot better than our situation last year, where we only could talk on the phone once a month, maybe twice if we were lucky. I talked to him and the conversation was great!

[Kerry]

ohhhh ok.... now your question is making more sense to me. I thought that you two spoke on the phone often.