Possible New LDR....

[scgirard]

Hello everyone. I stumbled upon this group while searching for some advice on LDR's and have had a chance to read some of the posts. After doing so I am very encouraged regarding all of the support that is available here.

Let me begin by giving you a little background. MY SO and I have been dating for about 3 months. We met on a dating website and hit it off almost immediately. At this point, both of us are still going through divorces. She still lives within a mile from her soon to be ex and has 3 kids living in a 2 bedroom apartment. I have a child as well, but I chose to move approximately 50 miles from my ex and don't really have any communication with her unless it has to do with my 13 year old daughter. Right now my SO and I live about 30 miles apart, but see each other on a pretty regular basis. She has an opportunity to move back closer to her family, in the town she grew up in and live in a house for free that is being willed to her by her grandmother. This would increase our distance apart to about 125 miles. I have never been in a LDR and am having a lot of anxiety over this, even though at this time it is just a possibility. I am a very phyical person and really enjoy the physical connection that we share. Also, moving further away from my ex will place a further strain on my visitation arrangement with my daughter. At this point, I guess I am looking for advice on how to prepare myself for a LDR?

Thanks,
Scott

[Semperfikindoflove]

The best advice I can give you is that it's going to be hard either way. If you stay where you are, you're going to give up time with her, if you move closer to her you'll be giving up time with your daughter. It's a very hard balance in a long distance relationship. With that said, it isn't impossible. If you think you love this woman and you could have a future with her, it's completely worth it. The good times will level out the bad ones. Just keep a positive mindset and remember that when things get hard, you have to rely on each other to be strong enough to handle it. You always have support here as well. Everyone is very welcoming and some of us have experiences with multiple long distances relationships previous to our current one. I've been through the ups and downs of the long distance relationship four times and it's always difficult. Just remember that time is a number and distance is only as great as you make it out to be. I wish you the best of luck, if you need anything let me know!