My family has been learning about my plans to move to Texas to be with my boyfriend. They all know I'm in a long distance relationship and seem honestly shocked that we're moving in together before we're engaged. This blows my mind. Now I will say I know there are several people on this forum who don't believe in living together before marriage, but I'm not one of them. How can they be shocked that we're not engaged but wanting to live together? When have we gotten the time to really get to know each other and as such how can I make an HONEST commitment to being with my boyfriend for the rest of my life without this knowledge?
I can't stand this old fashioned mindset. We're long past the 1950's, get over it. Even my mom said, but you're not engaged, you need a rock first. No I don't. I need to know that I'm making the right decision before I take that rock. An engagement ring doesn't mean your relationship is a sure thing.
What's really bothering me though is that my last relationship was met with so much opposition from my family (and rightfully so) that it makes it really hard for me when they disapprove now. I just need a little approval that I'm doing the right thing and it's frustrating when they come up with another thing that's an issue to THEM but not to me.
I can't stand this old fashioned mindset. We're long past the 1950's, get over it. Even my mom said, but you're not engaged, you need a rock first. No I don't. I need to know that I'm making the right decision before I take that rock. An engagement ring doesn't mean your relationship is a sure thing.
What's really bothering me though is that my last relationship was met with so much opposition from my family (and rightfully so) that it makes it really hard for me when they disapprove now. I just need a little approval that I'm doing the right thing and it's frustrating when they come up with another thing that's an issue to THEM but not to me.
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