Hi guys. This is my first post here and i joined so i can hopefully get some advice and direction from other people with better expeirience in this area.
I met a girl 5 months ago on a dating site and we instantly got along very well. We spend all the time talking on skype, up to 15 hours a day some days and its every day and even if were out we call each other all the time. She lives in Ukraine and 2 weeks ago i went to spend a week with her and to say it was good is an understatement. It was very natural and there were never times where we felt uncomfortable or bored or like were not having fun. In fact it was so good i am going for another week in 2 weeks time.
The thing that worries me is that its too good, its obvious we are developing strong feelings for each other but i am not a rich man, i can not afford to keep going there every month. She would come here to spend time but the visa issue is a problem. I really like the girl alot and already its painful thinking that we have to spend so much time appart so early in the development of our relationship. Is it healthy to start this way? What happens in the future when we feel even more? does the distance and pain it causes really be overcome? I know it would not be forever. I told her we would see each other every couple of months for a week minimum at least for a while to see if we still feel the same in 6 or 8 months and then we can start to think about a more permanent solution to the problem but between now and then i see it might be trouble and sometimes feel it would be less painful in the long run if i backed out what is not what i want to do.
Just so confused by it all but so happy i found someone who i really get on with well.
I met a girl 5 months ago on a dating site and we instantly got along very well. We spend all the time talking on skype, up to 15 hours a day some days and its every day and even if were out we call each other all the time. She lives in Ukraine and 2 weeks ago i went to spend a week with her and to say it was good is an understatement. It was very natural and there were never times where we felt uncomfortable or bored or like were not having fun. In fact it was so good i am going for another week in 2 weeks time.
The thing that worries me is that its too good, its obvious we are developing strong feelings for each other but i am not a rich man, i can not afford to keep going there every month. She would come here to spend time but the visa issue is a problem. I really like the girl alot and already its painful thinking that we have to spend so much time appart so early in the development of our relationship. Is it healthy to start this way? What happens in the future when we feel even more? does the distance and pain it causes really be overcome? I know it would not be forever. I told her we would see each other every couple of months for a week minimum at least for a while to see if we still feel the same in 6 or 8 months and then we can start to think about a more permanent solution to the problem but between now and then i see it might be trouble and sometimes feel it would be less painful in the long run if i backed out what is not what i want to do.
Just so confused by it all but so happy i found someone who i really get on with well.
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