More frequent or longer in duration?

[Silvaria]

Please don't post anything like "So-and-so gets to see their SO once a month; I only get to see mine once a year; they have it so much easier." Distance is distance and it's painful no matter what.

No argument from me there, but as someone who hasn't been able to see her SO in more than two years due to the sheer distance paired with financial constraints, I am -incredibly- jealous of those of you who get to see yours once a month, or once every few months.

So, that being said, I can't really pick Option 1 or 2, because I'd give damn near anything to see him for just one single day right now.

[LilyChiba]

Option two is the only thing feasible for me. So it's the only choice I have, whether I like it or not. In either case, I would prefer a solid period of time over short visits, just to get comfortable rather than jumping around all the time.

[liv4cause]

Wow.. hard to chose!
For me, I'm glad I get to see him twice this year!!! I will be going for 6 weeks. And that's how it will be until he can visit me in about 1 year, and depending on how our financial situation is. I would love to see him more frequently, it is terrible not seeing him for 6 months. The good byes are of the worst kind. 6 months (and even that is being hopeful) is a heartbreaking period of time to say good bye for. I really would have to go with #1.

[littlethinktank]

I prefer more frequent but shorter visits. I need something to look forward to and I am very impatient. I normally find that after about 2-3 months that we are apart I get cranky and it's much harder for me to remain positive. Unfortunately with the long distance between us frequent visits are just not possible. The flights are too expensive. For us an ideal would be 4 visits a year but it doesn't always work out: money and work stand in the way

[Zapookie]

I would love to see him every few weeks, even if it was only for a short amount of time.

[Zephii]

I don't consider two weeks a long visit. But then, being international, two weeks is bearly worth the money, and two days isn't even possible
But, that aside, I'd prefer infrequent longer visits. (option 2)

[Malaga]

I would love to see him every few weeks, even if it was only for a short amount of time.

Yes. Definitely first option, if I had to choose. There comes a time between each visit, right in the middle, when I can't even remember what's it like to be with him anymore. I don't know if it's the same for him. It's not that I love him any less or anything, it's just that our time together seems like a distant memory, almost a dream. The shorter that time between visits is, the more vivid it is. I'd rather see him every couple of weeks, even if it's for like a day, than twice a year for two weeks or even a month.

[msskunk]

Geez, I though I can't choose both opinions. Our 1st meeting in September 2010 was only about 10 hours, and we had plan to meet again last July for 4 days but it failed.
I dunno when I gonna meet again, but I think gonna be next year and I dunno how long it would be.

It like a dream to have long vacation with him, because of our tight schedule and about 7,000 miles apart.

[Tooki]

Being in an international relationship, I'm stuck with option B.

Thank god we both study, because we get a 3 month break at opposite ends of the year. We are planning to visit every 4 months or so, for at least a month at a time. I'm about go over for 3 months (my whole summer break). I'm trying to arrange for her to come mid next year.

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Being in an international relationship, I'm stuck with option B.

Thank god we both study, because we get a 3 month break at opposite ends of the year. We are planning to visit every 4 months or so, for at least a month at a time. I'm about go over for 3 months (my whole summer break). I'm trying to arrange for her to come mid next year.

[NaNi]

My SO and I can only meet up like every 9-10 months, so option 2 for us. We don't just stay for 2 weeks, though. It's longer than that. Usually around 5-6 weeks. I wish it could be longer, but I always have to pay for a place to stay, so that's really expensive as well. Costs just as much as the plane ticket. I'd like more frequent visits, but a weekend just isn't that much... But I'm not sure. We never had it any other way, so I don't really know what it's like.

[rhomy]

I prefer option number 1!!!
But unfortunately is not an option for me.

[lucybelle]

I'ma get all sciencey on you but once a month for a weekend is more than twice a year for two weeks.

But anyways, I'd rather be around for a longer time, option #2. Especially if you plan on moving in with each other, spending more than 2 days together is pretty important.

[Dziubka]

I'ma get all sciencey on you but once a month for a weekend is more than twice a year for two weeks.

But anyways, I'd rather be around for a longer time, option #2. Especially if you plan on moving in with each other, spending more than 2 days together is pretty important.

???

12x2 = 24

2x14= 28
The second option is 4 days more?
It depends on how you count weekends or weeks. But technically speaking the weekend is Saturday and Sunday, which is two days and there's twelve months.


Anyway I'd still go for option 1.
We see each other more than that and it's essential for me. I wouldn't/couldn't stay in a relationship where I saw my boyfriend a lot less than that. Longer breaks inbetween visits are also not an option. I couldn't wait for a few months half a year after each visit.
Although lucybelle has a point with living together for longer periods of time if you plan to move in together. But I guess in that case, you could close the distance by moving in the same city but have seperate apartments at least for the beginning, to see if it works out...

[Moon]

Option 2 for me. As much as I'd love to somehow see him frequently, those short little visits wouldn't give me enough perspective into him to see if we'd be compatible living together in the future. Anyone can be a good boyfriend for a weekend, it's harder to do over the course of a few weeks of constant togetherness. Also, it's an 8+ hour flight, so by the time I'd get there, it'd be practically time to go home.

[kteire]

I'm trying to adjust from #2 to #1. My SO and I used to see each other for a few weeks at a time with several months in between, and now we see each other on weekends. He was here this weekend, and I get to see him next weekend, but in my mind, we're still saying goodbye for 3 months. I like knowing I get to see him soon, but I wish I could see him more often for longer!!

But yeah, I guess I'd have to say more frequently for less time. That kind of implies you're close enough to do that, and then there's always the potential for taking time off work for longer visits!