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    Nervous about Thanksgiving

    I'm sorry if this is a little long.

    I知 so nervous about Thanksgiving.

    For those who don稚 know, my SO and I dated for a year and four months in high school. We were going to move in together and all that jazz. Then we broke up in July because of multiple issues: feeling pressured by our families, me feeling a little smothered, issues with another guy (that is embarrassing to say - not cheating, just being too flirty), and not knowing if our high school romance would make it. I moved; he stayed. I realized my wrongdoings, and he realized his. We got back together in September, are taking it slow, and are closer than ever emotionally, even though we are not close distance. We are both completely happy in our relationship and are taking everything one step at a time.

    My mother is happy that I知 happy and says she saw the reunion coming. My father is coming to terms with the idea.

    He says his mother is okay with everything that has happened. But I am still nervous. I will be staying at her house, where he stays but pays her rent, for a little bit over Thanksgiving break. I知 extremely nervous to see her for the first time after everything that happened. She used to love me, called me her second daughter, bought me presents, ect. Now I am not sure what her reaction will be. She knows about our issues and everything that happened. How do I know she won稚 think I知 a bad person? He thinks I should not worry. But I can稚 help feeling insecure.

    I知 not exactly sure what I知 asking here. I just figured you all could help me by either validating my concerns and making me feel less crazy or telling me I知 being too self-conscious.
    Thanks for your time.

    Became a couple: March 17th, 2010
    Started our college long distance relationship: August 2011
    Surprise engagement in Disneyworld! : March 22nd, 2013
    Closed the distance: May 2nd, 2014
    Became his wife and started our happily ever after!: May 17th, 2014

    #2
    I wouldn't worry, it sounds like you care very much about having everyone being happy, which is an awesome trait to have. Just take a deep breath, what's done has been done right? If your SO said his mother is okay with everything, then I wouldn't worry. I wouldn't worry about how she thinks because you can move on from what happened and by your actions and words now you can show how everything has been fixed. Sometimes when we worry so much about things, we convince ourselves that something is true or is bound to happen when in reality its not as big of a deal. I bet everything will be just fine, just enjoy the time you have for the holiday. If you don't worry then it won't be focused on right? You got this

    I'm very much the same way, I know how you feel. *hugs* Just relax, you'll be fine.
    "You will always have my heart, no matter how far we're apart" ~ Jacob

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      #3
      His mother knows you are a wonderful person if she was willing to call you her daughter. People go though rough patches and just cause mistakes are made doesn't take away from the person you are. Try not to worry, you might not instantly have the same closeness but she won't think less of you.

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        #4
        his mom knows youre not a bad person. She is an adult and can forgive you for whatever happened, but the first meeting might be awkward because no matter what happen he is still her baby and she is going to see it as you hurting him..... I went through something simular with michael and his family, but she will get over it when she can see that you two really are happy together

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          #5
          Thank you all for your replies. I feel like this is the only community that understands my situation.
          I know it will be awkward at first but I hope you guys are right about her liking me again. You definitely helped me to calm my nerves though!

          Thanks

          Became a couple: March 17th, 2010
          Started our college long distance relationship: August 2011
          Surprise engagement in Disneyworld! : March 22nd, 2013
          Closed the distance: May 2nd, 2014
          Became his wife and started our happily ever after!: May 17th, 2014

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