The Feeling After They Leave

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My SO just left today after a weekend visit. I'm a lucky girl for the fact that he CAN come for a weekend visit, but it still hurts to watch him pull away. My solution to this sadness? I snuggle the giant stuffed frog he got me for our first Valentine's. He has a giant stuffed dog at his place for the same purpose.
What do you do to get over the initial sadness after your SO leaves from a visit?

[Kerry]

cry.. cry... cry... when i went home after my visit i cried for 3 days. he'll be visiting me and i know i'll cry after he leaves.

[Bethypoo]

Um there is a lot of crying and this weird feeling of loneliness. But I am the one who drives away 90% of the time. IDK. it just sucks not matter how you look at it. I give myself that day to cry and then it is back to life. But that doesnt mean that I am horribly sad for about a week.

[AEAS]

Retreating to my bedroom, hugging a pillow, wearing the hat I stole from him and crying my heart out until I fall asleep.
Good times, gooood times.

[BlueCat]

I honestly have always found it harder to be left behind than to leave. When I leave, I get to go home and see my family and be in different yet familiar surrounds of home. When my SO leaves me, I can't do anything at home without being reminded of him since he was just there. And instead of me just watching tv or making some food, I'm watching tv or making food without him. It's a horrible hollow feeling.

How do I deal with it? I don't very well, lol. I usually cry a lot. Try and catch up with my friends a lot soon after he leaves to distract me. I hug the plush he gave me and just try to do the hobbies that make me really happy, and of course, I talk to my SO when I can and make sure he arrives home safely.

[Zapookie]

I cried... hugged the pillow he was using when he was here, sprayed it with his cologne and cried into it some more.

[ChibiFelicia]

I always cry, either driving from the airport or crying my eyes out on the plane. But as soon as i get home i just busy myself cause i know i'll see him again soon.

[rubydissolution]

There is a lot of crying between both of us, at the airport. If i'm leaving i find myself crying as the plane takes off, feeling like i'm getting further away from him again. After a 6 hour flight I'm normally OK when i get home and can't wait to hear his voice again. If he's the one that's leaving I can normally keep it together long enough til i get home. Then i lay on my bed and cry holding his sweatshirt that i wrapped in the pillowcase he used to sleep on. The sweatshirt smells like his cologne and the pillowcase just smells like him in general. He has one of my shirts with my perfume on it for the same reason. It doesn't get any easier over time unfortunately, feeling the miles pull you apart again sucks so much.

[Zephii]

I cry, a lot. But then I'm the type of person that cries a great deal regardless so, meh.

He's never left me though. I have always been the one to leave.

[MissJamie]

I'm that girl sitting on the plane, tears dribbling down my cheek watching the the sky map. Glad I'm not alone in the tears.

For what it's worth, to make it easier on my SO, last time I was there I hid a handful of notes around his house and in his coat pocket that he found for a few weeks after. I think it made me being gone a bit easier.

[xbriellex]

My boyfriend and I are more than 6000miles apart. And when I went to his country for a couple of weeks, I needed to go back home because of my visa. The thought of being away from each other for months kills me. But what I do is that I think ahead of how it would feel like to meet again and live together. We talk about our future a lot, and it helps reduce the sadness of being far away from each other.

[Sunbeam]

I cry. Crying is natural and nothing to be ashamed of.
I allow myself the first 1-2 days to seclude myself and cry and cuddle with a stuffed animal. Then I make it a point to leave the house, even if it's just to go grocery shopping, and I ease myself into socialization.
It works for me.

[Hololz]

When we were LD because of Uni, I would cry my eyes out at the station whenever he came for a weekend visit. After the first few times, I dunno what happened but it got "easier" to say goodbye, because I knew I would see him again. Weirdly, when I left for the US, I didnt shed a single tear.

Anyway, I do remember the feeling of leaving him the first few times being the worst thing ever *Hugs*. I used to hold myself together on the bus ride home by calling my mum and dad. Then when I got back to my room, I'd make sure I had work to do, a neglected essay etc. Failing that, I'd call my friends over and ask if they wanted to watch a movie or some TV in the TV room. I was pretty lucky, becuase I had a great support network.

Saying this, Im terrified when I have to leave him after I return home for the holidays. Im already starting to get upset about flying back to the US knowing all that is waiting for me is an empty house I dont have that support network here. I'll probs just save up a load of TV to watch or something.

It was always easier to say goodbye if we had an exact date when we would see each other again.

[Xanahtas]

Crying helps, if you cry you let it all out so you feel better. I normally distract myself with coursework or making something, or talking to my brother or playing with my brother on COD. Listen to music, facebook, research random things that come into my head etc :L

[Jgui]

I've cried a few times after visits with the SO. Lately it has been harder than before.. I think mainly it's because we are getting closer and it hurts more when one of us has to leave. Just as Bethypoo mentioned, I give myself that day to be sad then life goes back to normal... But I still think about my SO all the time throughout the day