Financial Differences

[bananabrain]

Really? Dude, if you're going to want to make this work you will need to try and make an effort to change your attitude towards her.. starting now. If you don't like the way she's living, why haven't you "fucked off" already? I'm sorry if that's harsh, but it's just absurd to me how you can speak about someone you love like that.

I can handle the way she's living as long as she's not insensitive towards my situation. I'm sorry for my language, but if she is not capable of understanding me no matter how much I explain, then I might as well throw in the towel.

[annb8888]

Well I didn't read the rest of the thread and what anyone else wrote..

But she's complaining about not going to Japan because she doesn't know anything from one of the Alphabets?? That's ridiculous.. I stayed there one summer with out knowing ANY Japanese and I survived just fine!

lol. Me too, I went to Korea last June where everything is in Korean and not everyone knows English and I was fine. Tho I had to resort to the finger-point method when ordering food. LOL.


But seriously, @Bananabrain, it seems to me that none of these are your fault or hers - it's just that you both don't mesh well - maybe not at the present time. She has the mindset of a child - I think she's not taking you seriously. You, on the other hand, amidst the envy and anger, has matured & wanting a good relationship. The problem is, you're both not meeting halfway. It takes two to tango and if one isn't dancing, then someone will just keep on stepping on someone's foot.

I'm not saying to stop loving her but I think you should step aside. I'm suggesting to give her space for now, without you. Let her grow some more and learn to appreciate. You can't offer her the maturity that your relationship needs. She needs to do that by herself. On the other hand, stop being jealous of her material things. Material things are just material things - some has them, some don't. Besides, she didn't earn that on her own. You can't make her appreciate your efforts - she will appreciate you IF she does appreciate you.

I believe that if two people are meant for each other, they will still find their way back to one another. It's just that maybe you have the right love at the wrong time.

[bananabrain]

But seriously, @Bananabrain, it seems to me that none of these are your fault or hers - it's just that you both don't mesh well - maybe not at the present time. She has the mindset of a child - I think she's not taking you seriously. You, on the other hand, amidst the envy and anger, has matured & wanting a good relationship. The problem is, you're both not meeting halfway. It takes two to tango and if one isn't dancing, then someone will just keep on stepping on someone's foot.

Maybe you're right. When we first dated, we were both kids. Both of us were oblivious to the real world. However, I was the first to realize how hard it REALLY is just to stay alive and work for my own needs.

College life has drastically changed me. I'm no longer the person that I used to be. Maybe my relationship is dying because we may have grown apart.

[floridaellen]

College does drastically change people. It is tough on my relationship, especially since I attend college and my SO doesn't due to lack of funds.