Talking in a group

[HerSunflower]

I just wanted to post this up because I wanted to know if anyone else has experienced this:
I said hello to my SO, after a couple of minutes of pleasant conversation she suddenly became a tiny bit distance and I could tell she was distracted... she was talking to someone else on facebook. This made me want to leave... so I did. Does anyone else feel like leaving their SO when they're in a conversation with someone else? I feel like maybe it's because I feel like I lack attention and I start to feel neglected... this doesn't happen everyday ofcourse but it does happen frequently enough that I want to know what it is... I can't quite describe the feeling I'm having. It's not jelousy, I'm thinking it's probably guilt from leaving for such a dumb reason... reason being I don't like talking in groups and it feels that way whenever she talks to multiple people online. :/

Has anyone dealt with this?

[Zapookie]

Yeah it has happened to me but I understand that he has his own friends to talk to, and he'll talk to me when he's ready. But usually these days we don't really talk to many other people online so I haven't had to deal with feeling neglected but I definitely have felt that in the past so I can empathise with you.

If you start to feel that way, there's no real need to leave. Just do something else on the computer while she talks to the other people, maybe send her a message and tell her what you're doing. Sometimes waiting for her to talk to you and not getting as much time as you thought you would really really sucks, so don't wait around for her. Just let her know that you're online. Maybe try and make conversation. If she's purposely ignoring you for other people then I would ask her why, but if not, there's no need to feel that way

[louisanna6]

I'm normally the one on the other end of this. I talk to my SO twice a day for over an hour at a time. He is a very slow typer and his internet is sketchy. This generally leads to a lot of downtime for me. Normally I surf the web or just have other things open. Sometimes someone will chat with me on facebook. I try to keep the convos short so I can talk to my SO, but its not easy sometimes. I always feel really torn when this happens. But, my SO is very understanding. He knows I have other friends or sometimes get distracted. I've never talked to him directly about this, but I try to minimize my distractions. When the internet is really good I tend to give him my full attention. But I know if he was physically around me I would talk with my other friends when he was around. On the one hand its distracting, but on the other its a little more like regular life. I'd say try to have an open conversation about it. That will keep everyone on the same page.

[Bethypoo]

I think that it is the same with anyone not just someone you are dating. When you go and talk to them and they just seem like they are more engaged in another conversation, its annoying and you just don't feel relevant.

dont take it personally.

[NaNi]

My SO sometimes checks her phone or sends text messages while we're on Skype. I really hate that. But I told her about it and she said she would stop doing it. It's just really not nice. It's our time and it's limited. So it should only be about us for a few hours.

[dutchgirl]

Here the same...I hate it too. Especially when we don't have a lot of time to talk.

[ChibiFelicia]

Both my man and i do that to each other. Normally we just join in or i tell him what im talking about and vice versa. We make sure each other doesnt feel neglected. Although i must say this was oonly when we had a talk about it, cause he used to do it alot and i'd just mute or something. He got the picture. So we had a discussion on how we'd deal with it.