6 months without him :(

[Lizzie2579]

I'm sorry to hear your broke up. I can understand why you couldn't do it, you have to have goals otherwise it just starts to seem like there's no point. Thinking about seeing him in may is the only thing that keeps me going, then hopefully he can visit england in june/july, visa permitting, I hate visas!! Its nice to hear from people in the same boat though, this forum definitely helps to keep me strong. Thanks guys!

That's one of the reasons we are broken up. It's been 14 months already since the last time we met, and it will be a minimum of 18, or up to 21, or years beyond that, until we can see each other. It got to him, but mostly it got to me, and I couldn't do it anymore.

[Fra101]

It's really hard to have that amount of time apart, for me and my SO it will be almost a year since we've last seen each other, and with both of us in college and work commitments, communication is a lot more scarce than it was last year. The one thing that helps me the most is just looking back and thinking about all the great times you and your SO have had together. From that you'll know you'll be together again, as the saying goes, absence makes the heart grow fonder

Just an update, 3 months done, 3 to go! I will be going to see him on 20th May, I'm so, so excited! It will be 2 days after my birthday and our 1 year anniversary so hopefully lots of celebrating! Hows everyone else doing?

Hey that's the same day I'll be visiting my SO!

I visited my SO last month and had a great visit...it was so good to see him after all those months apart. Now I'm just trying to get through the next 3 months, so staying very busy!

[kiara_silver]

My SO left in august and wont be here until April, so thats 9 months apart from our 2 month visit together. So I can relate to what your going to be feeling. Its going to be hard, won't lie, but making time for each other I think is important, even if its just a email daily, just keep the communication open. Then keeping yourself busy, and occupied., going out, anything to help pass the time. Stay strong!

[Lizzie2579]

Just an update, 3 months done, 3 to go! I will be going to see him on 20th May, I'm so, so excited! It will be 2 days after my birthday and our 1 year anniversary so hopefully lots of celebrating! Hows everyone else doing?

[Lizzie2579]

Thank you, Im having a bad day today, he tried to call me 3 times and i had no signal so we couldn't speak and we haven't spoken since sunday so I feel a bit down. Reading your comments helps me though! Thanks again!

[Yaaamiii]

Don't focus on the 6 months, set smaller time frames, do you have a family member's birthday soon? Focus on that, set closer goals to look forward to such as "in two weeks, I get to do .... ", and before you know it, once a few of those goals have passed, he will be done his service.

This is very good advice. I've started doing the same thing this year, and it has definitely made things MUCH easier. I feel the distance is much harder to cope with when all you think is "oh my gosh...it's only been a WEEK and we still have 4 months to go!" It's much easier for me to say "oh two weeks from now I'm going on a retreat, 4 weeks from now we're celebrating ____'s birthday, in a 2 months we'll be together again!"

Best of luck to you! Remember that you are stronger than you believe.

[Lizzie2579]

1 month down, 5 to go!! Im coping ok so far, he has been in the army for nearly 2 weeks and im keeping myself really busy! I will be going to see him around may 19th and im sooo excited!! thanks for all the advice!

[Lizzie2579]

Thank you to everyone who has replied, it really helps to know people are in the same situation. I can cope with the time apart but its the lack of contact that really bothers me. I don't know when he will get in touch, I just have to wait but I will take everyone's advice and just keep myself really busy! Thanks again!

I can definitely relate. I haven't seen my SO in 6 months and it will be close to 9 months apart when we do get to see each other. We have super limited contact as well. I basically just deal with it by keeping myself super busy with work and counting down the days until I can see him again (I find having an end goal helps me a lot).

[msskunk]

Me and my SO never meet each other for 14 months and it would be more until the next meeting. We communicate through emails only, once a week. Better than nothing!
All we can do to cope it, is being busy and focus on our life more. Time will passed quickly than we though.

[LilyChiba]

I'm lucky enough to talk to my SO every day, but it may not so much be the case when I get a job since I'm still looking. If I got night work, that would be a different matter. However, I still haven't even met him for the first time. Easy to see in my counter how long I've been waiting. Mid next year for me. Keeping occupied is the only way I can do it to stop thinking too hard really.

[Engel]

I never had to do the hardly any contact thing, so I dont know how it is. But with a goal in the end it makes everything better and tolarable.

[Lizzie2579]

Thank you aggie and Bluecat, for your kind words and really good advice. I will definitely keep myself busy. I will write a list of things I want to get done while he's away! I like the idea of concentrating on smaller goals like Christmas, New Year, I have a holiday with my family in February! Thank you again, I feel a lot more positive hearing your stories and your words!