Shhh it's a secret.

[Jellybean♥Teletubbie]

Okay so I know I'm not being very loyal to my mum and I feel kind of bad for keeping a huge secret like this from her. But I just always needed to have someone and yeah my SO is a secret. I'm not actually even allowed to date...let alone date someone online. Honestly my mum would have a heart attack if she knew.

Has anyone else done this before? Or is your SO a secret as well?

[HollzHeartsChris]

My LDRs have always been a secret from my parents. It's the one thing I couldn't ever tell them really. They despise me talking to people over the internet and I know where you're coming from. Mine would have a heart attack too, especially if they knew their 18 year old daughter was dating a 24 year old

[rubydissolution]

I used to keep my LDRs a secret, but I've grown out of that. Secrets have a way of coming out, and personally if its going to happen it should come from you. I tell my mom everything, and she was always opening and willing to understand my behavior. She accepted who i dated whether or not she approved. Even now, when i know she wants me to break up with my SO bc of what he did to me shes trying to be supportive of my choice.

[Sunnyside193]

Well my old relationship was a secret for a while. We were CD but he lived just a few streets away so after school I would say "I'm going for a ride". It was half true lol I went fro a ride to a park were we would meet up. I don't know why I didn't tell them and I don't even remember how they found out lol

[Kerry]

I'm not a big fan of this kind of secret keeping.

[kittyo9]

I had my first boyfriend when I was 15. I didn't tell my mom for nearly a year, partly because I wasn't allowed to "date", and partly because I just was not comfortable doing so.

My boyfriend has had a couple "relationships" with two long-term girlfriends, one being myself, and hasn't told his mom about any but me. He says she thinks there have been more and he just hasn't said anything about them.

[SDPersona]

No, I've never kept my boyfriends a secret and I won't now. Like rubydissolution said, secrets have a way of getting out at the most inoppertune times sometimes and I'd rather have a good relationship with my parents based on trust. I've found life is so much easier that way.

[SDPersona]

No, I've never kept my boyfriends a secret and I won't now. Like rubydissolution said, secrets have a way of getting out at the most inoppertune times sometimes and I'd rather have a good relationship with my parents based on trust. I've found life is so much easier that way.

[blankita719]

When I was younger, I did not necessarily keep a secret about my relationships so much as just not discuss them with my mother. I realize you feel like she will just keep you away from him, but try to look at it from her perspective. I'm a mother now, and I know I would have concerns about my child (if they were under the age of 18 and/or still living in my house) keeping a secret like that from me. My biggest fear would be for his safety because even though many of the members on here can tell you that the person they met online and the person they met in real life were the same. I know many more people where it was the exact opposite. I met my SO when I was 18 and he was 27. My mother was not thrilled about it at all. But she didn't interfere and when we broke up then, it was for different reasons. Being 33, I have no reason to hide my relationship from anyone so it's hard to give you advice from your side as all I want to do is tell you keeping it a secret is a mistake. All I can do is tell you that your mom only wants you to be safe. Other threads have suggested that maybe you introduce her to him on skype so she can see for herself that he is a real person, so maybe that might help her get comfortable with the idea of you and him being in a relationship.

[Jellybean♥Teletubbie]

My LDRs have always been a secret from my parents. It's the one thing I couldn't ever tell them really. They despise me talking to people over the internet and I know where you're coming from. Mine would have a heart attack too, especially if they knew their 18 year old daughter was dating a 24 year old

I know, I have even told my mum about some of my online friends and she always tells me they are fake and blah blah. It's very annoying. :P

I used to keep my LDRs a secret, but I've grown out of that. Secrets have a way of coming out, and personally if its going to happen it should come from you. I tell my mom everything, and she was always opening and willing to understand my behavior. She accepted who i dated whether or not she approved. Even now, when i know she wants me to break up with my SO bc of what he did to me shes trying to be supportive of my choice.

Yes but my mum is not going to be open and willing to understand me. If I tell her she would probably rip the computer out of the house and kill me. I am scared I would never be able to talk to him again if she knew. Once I told her I didn't mind Bi people and she flipped out! So yeah me telling her this is even worse.

Well my old relationship was a secret for a while. We were CD but he lived just a few streets away so after school I would say "I'm going for a ride". It was half true lol I went fro a ride to a park were we would meet up. I don't know why I didn't tell them and I don't even remember how they found out lol

haha that is exactly what I am going to say when my SO visits me. I'll just like go on a walk or something.

I'm not a big fan of this kind of secret keeping.

yes a lot of people aren't but I don't really have a choice.

I had my first boyfriend when I was 15. I didn't tell my mom for nearly a year, partly because I wasn't allowed to "date", and partly because I just was not comfortable doing so.

My boyfriend has had a couple "relationships" with two long-term girlfriends, one being myself, and hasn't told his mom about any but me. He says she thinks there have been more and he just hasn't said anything about them.

It sucks but I guess a lot of parents might not allow thier children to date. It just makes us lie to them or at least it made me do that.

No, I've never kept my boyfriends a secret and I won't now. Like rubydissolution said, secrets have a way of getting out at the most inoppertune times sometimes and I'd rather have a good relationship with my parents based on trust. I've found life is so much easier that way.

yes but my SO is also older, I remember telling my mum I was talking to a 18 year old guy and she freaked out on me. I would literally be dead meat telling her about him. I really want her to know but yeah. I will just have to wait until I am 18.

[Jellybean♥Teletubbie]

Blankita719- My mother will interfere though. :/ Yes I understand she wants me to be safe and I am safe but even dating at my age in her opinion is really bad. That is a good idea actually, maybe I'll try that out. I am thinking once I get wifi and I am able to use my xbox live to talk to him then I will tell her. Because even if she takes away the computer I still have that. The whole idea of telling her scares me to death though.

I mean I am 100% positive that my SO is a safe good guy as well.

[Sora1101]

I've been keeping my relationship a secret from my parents since I was 15 but soon enough I'll be 18 and it'll be somewhat easier to break the ice about dating a 22 year old ^^;

[Jgui]

I've always been opened with my mum about my relationships. I'm pretty lucky to have parents who are open minded and treated me like an adult since I was 14(my 1st boyfriend age).

Just as some people stated here, secrets always finds its way out.

[Zapookie]

I told my mother. My SO was my friend at first but I kinda knew it was going to turn into something more so I told her I had a friend who lived in the USA and we talked a lot and that he was thinking of coming here. She wasn't ok with it at first but he ended up staying with us for 3 months. She always told me when i was younger that she would never interfere with my love life because her own mother did it to her and she never forgave her.. so whenever she tries to get snappy at me I remind her of her promise.

[LilyChiba]

I didn't tell my mum for over a year about what was going on. She ruined my last LDR so I didn't want her to know until the last moment. May be the wrong thing to do, but I can't stand her BS sometimes lol. Now she's in an LDR herself, she knows exactly what its like. Well ok maybe not entirely. She doesn't have to leave her country for him, just needs to go back to the state we were born in or he come up here.