Hard to be hopeful?

[chanel_leigh]

Okay. So I just started my LDR in August when I moved to Chicago for college. My boyfriend is still in high school in Wisconsin and we're doing the best we can. Of course it's hard to not see him every day like I was used to, but I am getting through it. It's also tough because I'm so homesick and this is just another thing on top of that. But the problem is that my SO keeps having these scares because right now, my family is in the process of moving to Kansas. It makes it really hard for us to have hope in this relationship sometimes when we know that at the end of the school year, I won't be coming back to Wisconsin, I'll be going to Kansas which is 10 hours away from my BF.

I just need help, I think and wondered if anyone had any tips on how we can stay hopeful that things will work out? I know that I want this to work, and I think we can, but it's just hard enough already and then my BF worries about how the summer is going to work out so I wondered if anyone had any advice! thanks (:

[JennMarcus612]

UGHHHHHH!!!! THATS ROUGH! First thing I would do is question your parents on why the hell they want to go to freaking Kansas and advice against it.... been there done that.. wasn't impressed. Lol. (I'm really sorry this isn't a joking matter.) I'm sorry your homesick. I know what that feels like and it totally blows. Right now I am home and I keep watching Vampire Diaries and now I'm homesick to live there. Is your boyfriend a Senior? Maybe this will be a short term LDR! Just think in a couple of months it'll be Christmas and maybe you can make the trip up for New Years. Please please please have hope. It's rough but really do able. (As I lay here writing countless letters to my SO as a source of therapy by not being near him.) My advice is see if he's interested in your college, communicate as often as you can, plan trips in advance and put a count down on your phone and stare at it daily. Get skype on your phones, call each other, sleep on the phone together (sounds totally lame and dorky but it's helped me). Have netflix dates together...ect and most importantly know that this distance, as long as it may seem to be is JUST TEMPORARY. You'll close the distance one day and it'll be like a fairy tale. I promise.

[chanel_leigh]

I know, right?! Moving to Kansas had to be the worst idea my parents ever had, but it's because my dad took a teaching job there. Ugh. Such a terrible decision! My boyfriend is a junior, actually! Haha, I'm kind of a cougar but we're only a year and a half apart. And I know the next time I'm going home is for Thanksgiving but it just seems soooooooo far away, so it's hard to be positive sometimes. But I'm trying my hardest! I want this to work out more than I've ever wanted anything in my entire life

[JennMarcus612]

haha oh girl... im a kitten...hes 38 and im 24.