A Quick Question

[frompanthertomustang]

Hey everyone Quick question...

What's your stance on your SO dancing with members of the sex that they are attracted to at his/her college during parties?

[Black_Halloween]

I'd be pissed if he danced with somebody he was attracted to. Its different if they're just good buds.

[digitalfever]

I don't really care. I dance with who ever is closest. Hot or not and it means nothing.

[Tooki]

I don't care, whether I'm with her or not. I trust my GF to not do anything that crosses the line. I like to think that she thinks the same towards myself.

[kteire]

That would probably bother me, but it depends on the kind of dancing going on. I basically think that if it's something he wouldn't do if I were there, it's not appropriate.

[kittyo9]

I'd be okay with it. I trust my SO and I feel confident that he will make good decisions (including distancing himself if someone gets too feely).

[Dziubka]

Why wouldn't he?

Should he only dance with other guys while I'm not around?!

[Biddlybiddlybombop]

It's not the member of the opposite sex I'm opposed to, it's the attraction. As this is in the 'college' section... agh... the kind of dancing that happens here between members of the opposite sex where there's an attraction is not the kind of dancing I'd like my SO to be doing with someone else...

Dancing with your mates who are of the opposite sex in a platonic way is fine. Grinding up against some hottie who if you were single you might go for is not. I tend to go for the 'if you wouldn't behave like that if your SO was there, you probably shouldn't be doing it' approach.

[ThePiedPiper]

I would probably feel a bit bothered but I'd also probably swallow it, deal with it and never bring it up. I wouldn't expect him not to dance with others and I would trust that he would have the capacity to make good decisions and not let his penis think for him, since I believe men are entirely capable of that. It would be one thing if it were intimate dancing (slow dancing with a lot of touching and hair stroking) but then, I do salsa dancing and if I were with a partner, I wouldn't want him to be so threatened, he ask me to stop for him. So I would probably deal with it and realise I was being ridiculous to be so jealous.

I imagine it would be different if this were someone he was openly attracted to and he attended parties to dance with them on a regular basis (not a friend but someone he was actively attracted to/interested in), but I'm assuming that you mean random women here.

[kayla_622]

I think if I knew my SO was attracted to them it would bother me but it it was just a good friend or a random stranger then whatever. As long as he doesn't cross the line and starts booty dancing with them then its okay. Don't really have to worry about that though since my SO doesn't dance...in public at least.

[charly]

I trust him, and I don't mind if he wants to dance that way with anyone. (Not that he would...not really his thing) I have stopped doing so myself, because I didn't feel right to dance that intimate with someone I am sort of little attracted to and is not my so.

[Malaga]

That would probably bother me, but it depends on the kind of dancing going on. I basically think that if it's something he wouldn't do if I were there, it's not appropriate.

I agree, and I think it's attraction that's the problem, not the fact he dances with other girls. For me being attracted to someone is different than just acknowledging someone is good looking, it's more personal and so it makes it inappropriate.

In my opinion, there is an area of inappropriate in a committed relationship, I don't think that everything on this side of the cheating/not cheating line is acceptable. It's like with politicians finding legal loopholes for personal interests. They might not be doing anything illegal, but it's still not OK to say the least.

[Dziubka]

Guys!
The OP wrote "members of the sex that they are attracted to", which doesn't mean, that they're attracted to that particular person, it just means that the person is of their preferred gender.
So it translates (for example and for most of us) to:

"What's your stance on your (hetero-male) SO dancing with members of the sex that they are attracted to girls at his/her college during parties?"

[corrda00]

I can't even imagine my SO dancing

I'd be alright with it though. I know she wouldn't do anything crazy.

[carolynred]

Let's just say my SO's dance moves won't be drawing in the ladies anytime soon :P hahaha he has the goofiest dance moves, but I would trust him anyway.