LDR ended because of the distance/fights :( HELP

[TrishaMarie]

I had been with my SO for about 2 years most of which was LD besides summers and visits. He lives in tallahasse and I live in davie which is his home town so he used to come here on breaks and I would go up there sometimes. It was hard but we were doing it and were pretty happy even being LD. I was trying to close the distance and had applied to the school hes at because its a good nursing school. I have very good grades but they only accept 18 people so I dont see much hope.
I never realize until lost him that we were fighting wrong. Sounds stupid but we were. We would bring up old fights and unrelated things. I would get upset based on my longing for him and thats wrong I know. I feel I have made a huge mistake and the last fight broke us. He broke up with me about 2 weeks ago. I apologized but it was too late. He now says hes unhappy with the LD and doesnt want to do it again. He said if I got in we could see where things go but I dont have a lot of hope on that.
I can fix the way I fight now that i realized it but is it too late? Please help. I want him back more than anything. We had a good relationship and I feel like we never got a chance to be a real relationship and be a normal couple. I have fought but he is pretty set on not wanting LD. I want him to be happy but he was happy with me before this stupid fighting. Our relationship had dents but was not broken.
Has anyone been through this? Or know any advice to help me out. I dont want to loose a good relationship based on distance. Is it too late?


And for those who think he should move we both dont like where we live and he already switched schools into the state and likes his school. I dont like the school im at so i was transferring anyways.

[digitalfever]

If someone wants to be with you they will take the steps required to be with you. May those steps be compromise, discussion or even forgiveness. In this situation it seems that he is unhappy, doesn't want to be long distance and has now communicated thy. Move on.

[dem&ter]

Seems like if you keep wanting to be in relationship with him you have to close the distance. Based on what you've told, that's all he wants from you.

[TrishaMarie]

I know he wants me to close the distance. I would give anything in the world to close the distance. I took all the right steps to close the distance. Its near impossible for me to get into that nursing program because they dont take enough transfer students. Theres nothing else i can do. I would go live with him and he would do the same after college but thats another 2 years and the long distance isnt getting any easier. He just wants to be with me and i want to be with him. but its seeming to be harder than expected.

[Biddlybiddlybombop]

He just wants to be with me and i want to be with him. but its seeming to be harder than expected.

I'm sorry, but if he wanted to be with you, he would be working to make it happen as well.

I think if you push this relationship with him, you're going to push him away completely. Focus on working towards the nursing programme, if that's what you really want, but don't do it all just to be with him.

Look, if he was ok with the distance before, and he broke up after fighting, isn't it possible that the fighting is what was wrong with the relationship? And you're saying "I can learn, I can learn"... I think it's too late. And I think, honestly, if you were back in that relationship, you'd probably make the same mistakes again. I think there's a possibility that even if you get into this nursing programme, and you guys can close the distance, by the time that's happened, neither of you will really WANT to be in the relationship again.

It's all still new and raw, and I'm so sorry you're going through so much pain over this. Try and focus on yourself, and what YOU need. I would recommend not having any contact with him right now, because the likelihood is that you'll keep contacting him until he gets sick of it, and then you'll be saying "now I know what I did wrong, I contacted him too much". If you've been making mistakes when you two were arguing, it's likely you'll make mistakes in trying to persuade him to come back. Show that you're calm and mature, and accept his decision.

I hope for the best for you.

[Sailormars]

I know he wants me to close the distance. I would give anything in the world to close the distance. I took all the right steps to close the distance. Its near impossible for me to get into that nursing program because they dont take enough transfer students. Theres nothing else i can do. I would go live with him and he would do the same after college but thats another 2 years and the long distance isnt getting any easier. He just wants to be with me and i want to be with him. but its seeming to be harder than expected.

I know how hard it is to get in to a nursing school even with good grades, and I can tell u did ur very best, except did u try asking the office how far r u on the waiting list? And as for ur guy, if he really wants u and cares about u, he will come back. The best thing u can do for urself at this moment is try to move forward. I know of many couples before in LDR who have broken up because of fights, or the guy is still looking, or because of the distance yet they still end up together. My point is, if you're meant to be, things will eventually fall into place. I don't know him at all, but I know majority of guys don't like being chased. They usually would want to do the chasing. Let him miss u... and take a shot again at that nursing program, who knows one spot will open for u. Be a little assertive, and call the office. I knew of this coz when I was in Cali, I had to call the office many times and they even told me it's impossible - BUT I got in! However, I moved to NV.