She doesnt get it

[Soul]

im in college and she isnt. Most of her friends are in college and she assume that since her friends have left her that i would do the same.Its not like that cause i work my schedule around our relationship to try to get more time with her.

How can i show her that im making the effort and she has no reason of not seeing me unless its something important.

[lademoiselle]

I think you have to keep doing what you're doing, simply. Actions speak louder than words (and having to reassure someone verbally all the time can be exhausting), so carry on taking time out of your schedule to talk to/spend time with your SO.

I spent two years at home between secondary school and university, and during that time I met my SO. When I went back to my studies, he was worried that I'd be so preoccupied with my work and new friends that I'd forget about him - maybe even meet another guy. Well, I've just finished my first year of uni and nothing has changed between us, apart from me becoming less clingy, which is a good thing As long as you continue to make your SO a priority you should be fine. Good luck

[ams.201220]

I agree with lademoiselle! You're obviously putting a great deal of effort into your SO, which is where a lot of relationships fail. School became a problem for me and my SO, and we ended up breaking up for a semester because the stress from our lives became so difficult to handle individually that we couldn't manage our relationship. We did just get back together now that things have settled down. A huge problem I had, though, was that I was insecure for months. If your SO is feeling insecure, which it seems that she is, I would tell her to talk to you about whatever's bothering her. It may seem like she's pushing blame on you from time to time, but just listen to what she has to say and reassure her about what you're doing and how you meant to make her feel. You may have to do that for a bit until she calms down, but eventually she'll come to an understanding. Something I plan on doing for my SO in the fall semester is to go to well-known places around campus and take picture, some nice and some silly. Then I'm going to write little captions like: "I miss you!" or "I wish you were in this class with me!!!" I found that my SO would sometimes get jealous that I was making more time for my peers and campus friends than him, so it's just something to include him in, to let him know that I'm thinking about him around campus. Try doing stuff like that, or asking her questions about homework that you feel she may be able to help you with. It's a really great way to know each other better, and keep school stuff relatable between the two of you!

[Goyangi]

I don't know all the particular details about your relationship specifically...

But my boyfriend is ultra busy in and out of military schools! Which can be even more demanding than traditional college. And I can be an incredibly insecure, needy person. ...So how do we work through that? Well, we maintain honesty at all times. I know it sounds silly, but my SO and I will ask each other periodically, "How full is your love meter for me now?" And we answer honestly, and then if it's on the lower end of the spectrum, we discuss what the other might be feeling and why and how we can perhaps fix it!

I will also say my SO is incredibly good at being reassuring, and making me feel absolutely adored and desired. Even better than previous CD relationships. That being said, LDRs are hard and sometimes I'm unnecessarily needy... But then we talk about it and I do what I can to bounce back and reciprocate my own adoration and assurance.

[texasgal]

I agree with what everyone else said on the above. Its really great advice! You've got this! Good luck!