My SO submits his thesis TODAY.
I'm stoked. Proud of him, but also, super looking forward to his time opening up a bit.
Granted, now he's teaching an intersession course til mid-February, so that takes a couple days of his time (plus lecture-writing and grading) which with the time difference means we basically don't talk those days. And he's job hunting, etc.. but I feel like pretty much anything is less work and time than a PhD, lol.
Selfishly, it's been a little bit challenging from my side just because I've had to come second, especially in the past two weeks, but I do have to say he's really made some solid attempts to be in touch. Made sure we always had 10 minutes to say goodnight on chat or whatever.
That all said, I've been feeling really needy, because I've had to specifically ask for more things, like ask for him to email when he gets a chance, or ask for some time for us, when he used to just do it on his own. It just makes me feel, I dunno.. clingy?
I've kept my requests pretty reasonable, and he's been extremely receptive to it, and makes at least a little time, which I appreciate, and he thanks me for being patient with him while he's been so all over the place. But I've been kinda feeling a little meh about being the one to always instigate things.
I really do think it's just been a reflection of him being super busy, as opposed to like.. losing interest or whatever, but it's hard not to have that bit of doubt and insecurity in the back of my mind. So I'm just saying it to get it out of my head.
But anyway. I'm hoping/expecting that things will even out a bit more again now that he's done, with us more equally instigating contact, and me having to ask for things a little less.
Our one-year anniversary is on Sunday, and I knew that would be too close timing with the end of PhD (and again the saving money thing) for us to send gifts or whatever, but I did suggest a movie date night on skype. But I felt a little selfish about that, too.. this will be his first free weekend in months (he's been going in to work on weekends to finish thesis) and I know if I were him, I'd probably just want to sleep in, flop down on the couch and just have lazy time to myself.
I dunno. There's no major point to this post I guess, just rambling about feeling a little demanding, and hoping it adjusts itself now that circumstances are changing to how they used to be.
And yay, so proud of him, too. Big accomplishment.
I'm stoked. Proud of him, but also, super looking forward to his time opening up a bit.
Granted, now he's teaching an intersession course til mid-February, so that takes a couple days of his time (plus lecture-writing and grading) which with the time difference means we basically don't talk those days. And he's job hunting, etc.. but I feel like pretty much anything is less work and time than a PhD, lol.
Selfishly, it's been a little bit challenging from my side just because I've had to come second, especially in the past two weeks, but I do have to say he's really made some solid attempts to be in touch. Made sure we always had 10 minutes to say goodnight on chat or whatever.
That all said, I've been feeling really needy, because I've had to specifically ask for more things, like ask for him to email when he gets a chance, or ask for some time for us, when he used to just do it on his own. It just makes me feel, I dunno.. clingy?
I've kept my requests pretty reasonable, and he's been extremely receptive to it, and makes at least a little time, which I appreciate, and he thanks me for being patient with him while he's been so all over the place. But I've been kinda feeling a little meh about being the one to always instigate things.
I really do think it's just been a reflection of him being super busy, as opposed to like.. losing interest or whatever, but it's hard not to have that bit of doubt and insecurity in the back of my mind. So I'm just saying it to get it out of my head.
But anyway. I'm hoping/expecting that things will even out a bit more again now that he's done, with us more equally instigating contact, and me having to ask for things a little less.
Our one-year anniversary is on Sunday, and I knew that would be too close timing with the end of PhD (and again the saving money thing) for us to send gifts or whatever, but I did suggest a movie date night on skype. But I felt a little selfish about that, too.. this will be his first free weekend in months (he's been going in to work on weekends to finish thesis) and I know if I were him, I'd probably just want to sleep in, flop down on the couch and just have lazy time to myself.
I dunno. There's no major point to this post I guess, just rambling about feeling a little demanding, and hoping it adjusts itself now that circumstances are changing to how they used to be.
And yay, so proud of him, too. Big accomplishment.
That is definitely awesome!
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