Hello Everyone,
I have read several threads about dealing with parents but I have not found one that deals with something quite like this. So I have been dating this wonderful girl for about a month. Over Christmas we texted each other for 4-7 hours every day. We have gotten to know each other extremely well. I really care deeply for her and she likes me. Her parents are divorced and she has a twin sister who is going on a mission in three months and will be gone for two years. Her Mother and older sister is supportive of our relationship. Her twin however, is actively trying to hurt it. She has even messaged me on facebook and told me lies about how my girlfriend was considering breaking up with me and that I should leave her first in order to save myself the embarrassment. I found out this was totally untrue, but now her twin sister is trying to convince her dad that I'm bad news and we have rushed into go steady to quickly.
I have not met any of the family so far in person and I personally feel that if they got to know me they would know I'm not trying to take advantage of her or harm her in anyway. Granted our relationship is still rather new. We went out on four dates in a week before the Christmas break and have gone out on one since I got back to Utah. We are only two hours apart and I am her first boyfriend. I'm 27 she is 22. So I don't really know how to deal with the situation. I'm trying to be supportive and tell her I care about her frequently and willing to work through any difficulties we have in a relationship.
I know she likes me greatly but since her sister and dad are now starting to show their disapproval she is starting to question almost everything. I know she doesn't want to break up but she doesn't know how to resolve or help the situation. We could really use some advice. Could I do more? What are some things that she and I could do to help things? Thank you for your help.
I have read several threads about dealing with parents but I have not found one that deals with something quite like this. So I have been dating this wonderful girl for about a month. Over Christmas we texted each other for 4-7 hours every day. We have gotten to know each other extremely well. I really care deeply for her and she likes me. Her parents are divorced and she has a twin sister who is going on a mission in three months and will be gone for two years. Her Mother and older sister is supportive of our relationship. Her twin however, is actively trying to hurt it. She has even messaged me on facebook and told me lies about how my girlfriend was considering breaking up with me and that I should leave her first in order to save myself the embarrassment. I found out this was totally untrue, but now her twin sister is trying to convince her dad that I'm bad news and we have rushed into go steady to quickly.
I have not met any of the family so far in person and I personally feel that if they got to know me they would know I'm not trying to take advantage of her or harm her in anyway. Granted our relationship is still rather new. We went out on four dates in a week before the Christmas break and have gone out on one since I got back to Utah. We are only two hours apart and I am her first boyfriend. I'm 27 she is 22. So I don't really know how to deal with the situation. I'm trying to be supportive and tell her I care about her frequently and willing to work through any difficulties we have in a relationship.
I know she likes me greatly but since her sister and dad are now starting to show their disapproval she is starting to question almost everything. I know she doesn't want to break up but she doesn't know how to resolve or help the situation. We could really use some advice. Could I do more? What are some things that she and I could do to help things? Thank you for your help.
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