So for a little background...my boyfriend is a PreMed student in Washington, DC and I am a Finance student in Ohio. We have been dating for almost 2.5 years with this distance ever since we started dating. We are both seniors, so the real world is fast approaching. He is applying to medical schools, and I have recently accepted a job in Cincinnati. We are both originally from Cincinnati and one of the schools he applied to is University of Cincinnati. We have done LDR since the beginning and have been doing great. The idea of being further away or the situation changing in terms of location has always been too far away to think seriously about. We have gotten use to the fact that I'm in Ohio and he is in DC. The hope has always been that after undergrad we would be in the same city, or at least much closer together.
Now that we are to the point of potentially being closer it has gotten so much harder. I am not that busy with school work since I now have the fulltime job for after graduation. He is super busy though finishing up his lab research, applying to med school, doing interviews. He is so busy that we rarely text or call like we used to. We used to Facetime at least once a week, and it has been a few weeks since we did that. The texting has gone down and I don't know what to do. I try to stay busy with friends and other activities, but the times that I'm alone are worse since he is not there to reply.
We have talked about him communicating more, and each time he brings it back to the stress he is under. In a conversation that I want to be the one comforted, it ends up me comforting him. I understand the stress and big decisions that are ahead of him, but I just don't think he understands how lonely I truly feel. We have talked about what is ahead; the potential that he is closer but the higher likelihood that he is far away; the long journey of years of medical school and residency and fellowship and the rest; the idea that we are just on 2 different paths and it may not work.
I want it to work and I know he does too, but with the looming doom that I feel is coming, it makes it harder to continue. I don't want to give up on the 2.5 years of work that we have put into this relationship. And there is still the chance that the distance is closed by next year, but it's just hard. It feels like our worlds in terms of professions are just too different. He has so much longer to go, and I am starting me job journey soon.
Are our worlds too different? What should I do in these lonely moments? Help a girl out...
Now that we are to the point of potentially being closer it has gotten so much harder. I am not that busy with school work since I now have the fulltime job for after graduation. He is super busy though finishing up his lab research, applying to med school, doing interviews. He is so busy that we rarely text or call like we used to. We used to Facetime at least once a week, and it has been a few weeks since we did that. The texting has gone down and I don't know what to do. I try to stay busy with friends and other activities, but the times that I'm alone are worse since he is not there to reply.
We have talked about him communicating more, and each time he brings it back to the stress he is under. In a conversation that I want to be the one comforted, it ends up me comforting him. I understand the stress and big decisions that are ahead of him, but I just don't think he understands how lonely I truly feel. We have talked about what is ahead; the potential that he is closer but the higher likelihood that he is far away; the long journey of years of medical school and residency and fellowship and the rest; the idea that we are just on 2 different paths and it may not work.
I want it to work and I know he does too, but with the looming doom that I feel is coming, it makes it harder to continue. I don't want to give up on the 2.5 years of work that we have put into this relationship. And there is still the chance that the distance is closed by next year, but it's just hard. It feels like our worlds in terms of professions are just too different. He has so much longer to go, and I am starting me job journey soon.
Are our worlds too different? What should I do in these lonely moments? Help a girl out...
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