Distance.

[MeganK]

The distance is starting to become alot to handle,
Its only been a few mnths since ive seen my SO
but everytime I see him on cam, I just start crying.
I dont know what else to do to keep myself busy and to
not think about the distance, I work but that isnt enough to
distract me all day.

After spending a wonderful 6 mnths with him then having to come home...
then not seeing him since feb, Its very hard and frustrating, He feels the same
but he trys to stay strong for me and not cry when I do, which makes me feel worse for crying
when hes trying to be as strong as he can for us both.
I dont know how else to stop the loneliness and sadness from creeping in

Any ideas on how to stop the loneliness and sadness from creeping in?
How do you all handle the distance and heartache?

[Zephii]

I'm not sure there is anything that makes it better. I just want to offer big hugs

[laura89]

I was exactly the same for so long. I just felt like crying all day everday. I don't think there is anything to make it easier but you just learn how to handle it better. Sorry'r its not much help. Hope you're ok.

[mllebamako]

*hugs* Know that you are not alone. We've all felt like this.

When we were LD, the best thing for me was to ACCEPT the distance. To stop wishing we were living together, to stop being jealous of other couples, to try to stop thinking about the distance so much and just accept it. Once I accepted that this was our current situation, a phase in our relationship that would not last forever, then things became much easier.

I didn't want to waste all of our skype calls talking about how much we missed each other and wished we could be together. I decided that I would rather spend that time getting to know more and more about him. Sharing things about myself. Learning each other deeply. Talking about future, and our days, and silly things too.

Accept that this is your current situation right now. It sucks, but it's just a phase, it's not forever. Things will get easier, I promise.

[TwoThree]

I'll join in on the hugs *hugs*

I know how you feel and know that it isn't easy, especially after such a long period of time spent together.

However, what I do (and trust me, I couldn't handle things very well if I didn't do that) is focus on the next visit. Make plans, try to set up a date as quickly as possible after going back home, think of all the things we could do, all the things I have to do before, etc. That's very important to me, and it helps me cope. If you have plans about closing the distance, it's even better to focus on that.

Anyway, hope that helps. Good luck.

[nicole]

I'm sorry I used to get like this a lot, and nothing my SO could say would make me feel better He'd say "well in a year we will be together..." and I'd think, "How can I make it a year when I'm this miserable now?"... it sucks! Maybe try and do something special together, like a dinner and movie date over skype or a game night? Try and do something fun when you talk to him, instead of just sitting and dwelling on what you can't have right now. What the lovely ladies above me have said are also very true, I hope you can get out of the funk, we've all been there and it blows.

*hugs* Hope you feel a bit better soon!

[Phantomrose]

At the moment, I think the best bet is to accept the distance for now, and try not to dwell about the distance too much. It will just cause you to be in a sour, miserable mood if you keep dwelling over the distance. Focus on the positives instead, and be creative whenever you're on a call with him. I agree with TwoThree about trying to get to know each other more. Also, skype movie/dinner dates can be kind of fun!

[Zephii]

*hugs* Know that you are not alone. We've all felt like this.

When we were LD, the best thing for me was to ACCEPT the distance. To stop wishing we were living together, to stop being jealous of other couples, to try to stop thinking about the distance so much and just accept it. Once I accepted that this was our current situation, a phase in our relationship that would not last forever, then things became much easier.

I didn't want to waste all of our skype calls talking about how much we missed each other and wished we could be together. I decided that I would rather spend that time getting to know more and more about him. Sharing things about myself. Learning each other deeply. Talking about future, and our days, and silly things too.

Accept that this is your current situation right now. It sucks, but it's just a phase, it's not forever. Things will get easier, I promise.

Quoted for it's awesomeness.

[MeganK]

Thanks for all the great advice.
I really do apperciate it!

[nickki]

((hugs))

I get really sad about it sometimes too. All I can say is you will have those days. Just focus on the future & not dwell on the now & remember its worth the wait!

[MisfitLove]

Exactly, remember you'll see him again soon and everything will be okay! Think of seeing him as the best reward ever for dealing with the distance! Until then, take up a hobby or hang out with friends to make the time pass by?