Visiting for the first time

[jparrott13]

Hey all,

It is a little less than two months now that I will be visiting my SO in Scotland. I am totally mixed up with feeling nervous and excited! When we were together when we met over the summer, we were maybe physically together for a little over a week so this will be a pretty good 3 week trip! Was anyone in the same situation where you were only together for a short time when you first met and then ended up spending more time together a while after? How did it go? How did you feel? I kind of feel like this is a test, more like THE test. But I don't want it to only be that, and I know it isn't, I just really want to get along with him in person as well as we do at a distance. Did you get along just as well in person? All opinions and stories are gladly accepted! Thanks so much!!

[kria]

I was in the same boat that you are in. When I met my SO for the first time, we had 13 days together. When I went to visit him, we had approximately 18 days together. Then, this past summer when he visited again, we had 2 months!! I was feeling a lot like you are. That those 2 months would be THE TEST. I, myself, couldn't usually put up with people who stayed more than a week or two at my house. I got irritated easily by them (friends that would come over and stay a lot, this includes my best friends as well) and such, so I was really afraid that I would do that with him or him with me. I was also afraid of doing something he wouldn't like, such as not keeping my room spotless, because, let's face it, not many people succeed in that task. Anyway, I was afraid he would get tired of the type of food we fix here (southern cooking). I just pretty much overthought (if that's a word) EVERYTHING! Honestly, it was the most amaaazing two months of my life! I never ever felt irritated with him! I mean, sure, I did get grumpy a few times, but it was nothing like I was worried about. Also, he loved the cooking, laughed when I told him I was trying to keep my room spotless and said it didn't have to be, and I finally realized that I could truly just be myself with him. He did pick on me at times, but it was harmless, cute things how boyfriends do. He even helped me clean a few times, which sort of surprised me.
I was so happy about all of this. He didn't mind me being how I am. I mean, I have always been myself with him, but a part of me was still worried. I believe that we had more fun during the two month trip than either of the other two trips. We got along amaaazingly well too. We didn't argue once, which I was surprised about (We don't argue much at all, but I was afraid the close proximity for two months would cause an argument somehow).
So, from personal experience, I can honestly say don't worry too much. You're probably just overthinking it like I did. Just be yourself and go with the flow. I'm sure it will turn out to be the best trip so far!

Good luck!

[Pralene]

Hello,

It happened to me too. I saw my fiancé the first time for just two weeks and then we were parted for many months. The communication between us was so good, everything was so natural that it happened very well. We never had problems. Actually I think it's because we did not think too much that everything happened so well. We just trusted each other. You must trust your partner if you want to feel well with him or her and of course this must be reciprocal. Have a good time!

P.S : What does SO stand for? I understnad it's the loved one but S and O?!

[DiMoose]

I had the opposite really, I was the waiting end of the first time meeting and trust me... its just as nerveracking! You are there, having to get everything ready for the arrival, you know they're coming and you are sooo nervous, because even IF you have seen eachother in the past... we'll memory can be tricky and what if they're not exactly what you remember or what if they notice you've been packing chocolate because you were nervous... well its a lot of what ifs. But in my case I can assure you... my memory had NOTHING on the man standing infront of me when I picked him up at the airport.... and that is with jetlag, and all grumpy n frstrated because h hates flying and he went through a 12 hour flight to get to me. So it was all worth it, as far as the hardship of living together for the first time, wich I assume you will be doing. Its not so hard... think of all the time you've spent missing this person... of course youll be willing to let some things slide... who cares!! you're together, and you'll get the time to be together. I think it's not a test... I think the big test comes when they leave... because they do and then you have to go back to not having their hand there to hold... that is the hard part I think.

In any case Im sure you'll have a lovely time, scotland is amazing in winter... but VERY cold so bring wartm stuff and just enjoy your time with him... It'll be awesome you wait and see... have faith in what you have.

BEST of luck on your trip, and if everything goes great! Remember you can always go to Gretna Green

[DiMoose]

P.S : What does SO stand for? I understnad it's the loved one but S and O?!

Thank you sooo much for asking, I've been wondering the same...

[lyonsgirl]

P.S : What does SO stand for? I understnad it's the loved one but S and O?!

Significant Other.

[kria]

P.S : What does SO stand for? I understnad it's the loved one but S and O?!

SO stands for significant other.

[Adora]

Wee tip for OP - bring LOTS of warm clothes its chilly here in Scotland